What are your dreams?   If you are on a self-discovery path, you can probably rattle these off pretty quickly.  If you can’t rattle them off quickly, your first step is to spend some time daydreaming to remember what your big dreams were when you had them.  I’m giving you permission to be selfish here.  What are your dreams FOR YOURSELF?  While world peace and food on every table are valiant dreams, you can’t change the energy of each and every person on this planet.  I want you to focus on the dreams that you want for yourself personally.  Is it material objects?  New car?  Shore house?  iPad?  Independent wealth? Is it health?  Is it a fulfilling relationship?  Children?  What’s your big dream?

Take a few minutes and write down your biggest personal dreams.

Now that you’ve gotten in touch with your big dreams, take a few moments to ponder why you aren’t pursuing them.  We’re going to do some tapping on this. It would be helpful to write down some notes so you can tailor the tapping to your situation.  If you gave up on your dreams, when did that happen?  Why?  Do you believe your dreams are attainable?  If so, why?  If not, why not?

Let’s do some tapping about this: (don’t know how to tap? click here)

Karate Chop:  When though I haven’t achieved my biggest dreams yet, I deeply and completely accept myself.  Even though I’ve given up on my dreams, I’ll never get them, I accept who I am and how I feel.  Even though I’m not sure I can ever have my dreams, I choose to look at things differently now.

Eyebrow:  I haven’t achieved any of my big dreams.

Side of the Eye: What’s wrong with me?

Under the Eye: Why can’t I have my dreams?

Under Nose:  It’s not fair that they’ve done it and I haven’t

Chin: I’m never gonna get my dream

Collarbone: Why do I even bother to think about it

Under Arm: It’s too big

Top of Head:  But what if I could change my energy around this?

Take a deep breath.  Drink some water.  Check in with yourself.  Are you feeling some relief, or are you feeling worse now?  You may want to go back through the tapping points and tap on the reasons you gave up your dream.  This may take some time, and you may need to do the tapping more than once.  Tapping can be an instant fix, or it can take lots of tapping to make progress on an issue, so don’t give up.  You don’t stop brushing your teeth just because you have to do it every day.  Think the same way about your tapping.

When you are feeling some relief, continue on to the next round of tapping:

Eyebrow: Anyone can have their big dreams

Side of the Eye: Others have done it, and I can too

Under the Eye: What if I could match my energy to my dreams?

Under Nose:  Maybe I can draw my dreams to me

Chin: I’m willing to release my resistance to my dreams

Collarbone: I’m starting to be open to the idea that I can have my dreams

Under Arm: I’m willing to take the first step towards my dreams

Top of Head:  After I take the first step, I’ll take the next step.  I can achieve my dreams one step at a time.

Now, lather, rinse, repeat.  You can have your dreams.  But if you are convinced that you can’t, you need to make some shifts in your energy.  There are many ways to shift your energy, and one way to do that is through laughter.  That’s why I created the Manifest Your Dreams with Laughter Yoga workshop.  Consider coming to help you draw your dreams into your life!

I was moderately successful in life. I graduated from college, got a job, got married, went to law school, had a kid, got a job. I got mediocre grades, mediocre jobs. I went to work, did my job, kept the stiff upper lip. I’d come home and take my anger out on my family. At home, I could safely get mad, and I did. I’d get mad and stay mad.

Eventually I realized that my anger stemmed from feeling unworthy, not loved, not wanted, out of control. I was slightly afraid to fly, which I realized was related to my control issues. Fast forward a few years (doing EFT, intuitive healing and other modalities). Now, I actually have moments of happiness in my life! I never remember feeling happy before. I’m still on the path, but…

I’ve learned that I’m in control of my life, and I get to choose what I do and how I feel.

I’d love to hear your healing journey. Will you share it with me? Please sign up for my newsletter, and let’s start a dialog. If you haven’t begun your journey yet, or you need help along the way, I can help you to release those thoughts and beliefs that are making your life hard.

Peace, Kim Ruch-Alegant
Philadelphia Life Coach

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It’s a popular topic: taking back your power. 

the consequence of giving away your power?

Like many other components of the spiritual  

surrender – or experiencing the Divine within).

I can think of many times when I give my power  

I give my power when I get frustrated with  

in some situation – I give my power away.

When I get frustrated with – or blame  

Anyone made resolutions? I used to, but I’ve decided I like the word “intentions” better. It seems to me that it is easier to keep an intention, and easier to get back to it if I slip. When you slip from a resolution, sometimes the thought process is “Well, I blew that one. Might as well give up.” I don’t want to have those thoughts, so I’m intending.

But sometimes maybe we fail at our resolutions because we set ourselves up for failure by expecting it. What if those expectations could be released? Let’s do some tapping:

Karate Chop: Even though I’m afraid I’ll fail at my resolutions, I deeply and completely accept myself. Even though I don’t was to fail again, I accept who I am and how I feel. Even though I’m scared, I love and accept myself anyway.

Eyebrow: I don’t want to fail
Side of the Eye: Why do I bother making resolutions?
Under the Eye: I never keep them anyway
Under Nose: It’s just another way to beat myself up
Chin: What if this year was different?
Collarbone: Who am I kidding?
Under Arm: It’s never different
Top of Head: I make a resolution and break it

Eyebrow: I’m such a failure
Side of the Eye: It’s just something else to fail at
Under the Eye: I’m tired of this
Under Nose: I’m ready to make a change
Chin: I want to succeed
Collarbone: But I’m not going to
Under Arm: Why do I keep talking to myself this way?
Top of Head: I really am ready to make a change

Karate Chop: Even though it feels scary, I’m ready to make a change. Even though I’ve never succeeded before, there’s a first time for everything! Even though it hasn’t worked before, this time, I choose to make it work

Eyebrow: I’m ready to follow through on my resolutions!
Side of the Eye: It’s fun having something to look forward to
Under the Eye: I love knowing that even if I fall off the horse, I can forgive myself and get back on
Under Nose: I’m ready to make changes this year
Chin: I know things will get better for me this year
Collarbone: I can relax into this, and enjoy my progess
Under Arm: I love knowing I am in charge of my life
Top of Head: This is my life, and I’m making it great!

So, be kind to yourself. One step backwards does not have to mean complete failure. Only if you let it be so. Choosing to have it be different will make all the difference!

Go to the FreedomHealingandWellness.com home page to download the FREE Audio from our October 19, 2011 Feminine Power call!  Enjoy!

As I watch the Eagles playing each weekend, it is definitely a series of ups and downs.  They either start out great or start out horrible, and then they switch as the game goes on.  I KNOW they players and coaches would benefit from the energy coaching and healing work that I do.  I could help them trust their instincts more, help those lineman be more grounded so they don’t get pushed around so much, help those receivers trust that their body knows what to do…

A little bit of tapping, a little bit of intuitive energy work…

I’m ready to help, I just need a phone call!

Reclaim Your Feminine Power!

Join me on October 19, 2011 at 7:00 PM EST. Call 712-451-6025, access code 400436# for a FREE Teleclass to Reclaim Your Feminine Power!

The teleclass will be for the ladies about claiming your feminine power. I don’t mean in a withholding sex kind of way, but feeling into who you really are, and coming from there in all things.

Through the year-long training program I just completed, everyone kept telling me how powerful I am, if I will just step into it. With the help of a wonderful coach in the program, I’ve come to realize that it’s my feminine power I’ve been denying. Boy does it feel amazing to step into it.

If you think you’re denying your feminine power and operating more in your masculine energy, join me on the call. We’ll be shifting that pattern the whole call on October 19th at 7PM EST. Call 712-451-6025, access code 400436#

Kim Ruch-Alegant
Certified Energy Coach
Freedom Healing & Wellness
215-354-0057
kim@freedomhealingandwellness.com

Remember how back in February and March we couldn’t wait until the lazy days of summer?  What happened to that? Graduations, graduation parties,  forth of July parties, hosting friend and family get-togethers, etc.  Even our vacations usually consist of running around! 

Why is it that when summer arrives we continue in our crazy busyness instead of taking time to slow down and relax?  Why can’t we just enjoy our lives?  And for most people, even when we do take time to relax, we fret about what we should be doing, or when we go back to what we were doing, we fret about the time we wasted.

Why do we do this?  Several reasons, I think.  These may not popular, but ponder these before you dismiss them.  One is that is our society places much value on being busy.  If we’re not busy, we’re not successful.  Therefore, we have much invested in being busy.  (especially as moms, right?)

Do many outwardly successful people that you know talk about how much fun their life is?  How peaceful they feel?  How fulfilled?  Or do they always talk about EVERYTHING THEY HAVE TO DO, like it’s such a burden.  If busyness is how we gauge success, when why do we complain about it?  Tap, Tap, Tap.

Another reason I think many people can’t relax (and I myself was one of these people until lots of EFT and other releasing work), is because if we sit down for too long, our internal “stuff” comes up. (this is not a conscious decision, mind you.  it’s our subconscious protecting us)   What stuff?  Anything we don’t want to face about ourselves or our lives.  Could be anger or sadness related to childhood, our marriage, our job, our children.  Staying busy means we don’t have time to be introspective.  We don’t have to look at our stuff.

But when we don’t look at our stuff, we never process it so we can move on. Talk therapy brings up our issues, but mostly just reminds us of them without removing the trigger.  Now, talk therapy with tapping, that’s a way to process and remove.  Working with a coach that uses releasing techniques (such as EFT or intuitive energy work) to help you feel better is another way.

Let’s do some tapping on summer busyness:

Karate Chop:  Even though I’m so incredibly busy, I love and accept myself anyway.  Even though I can’t sit down for too long, because I don’t want to think, I accept who I am and how I feel.  Even though I wanted my summer to be relaxing, and it is anything but, I choose to do things differently now.

Eyebrow:  I’m so busy!
Side of the Eye:  Busy, Busy, Busy
Under the Eye: Life is supposed to be busy, right?
Under Nose:  Busyness = success, right?
Chin: I thought my summer would be relaxing
Collarbone: It certainly hasn’t been
Under Arm:  What happened to the lazy days of summer?
Top of Head:  I want my summer back!

Eyebrow: Even when I have time, I can’t sit down and do nothing
Side of the Eye: Sitting down is lazy, not successful
Under the Eye: But I want to relax
Under Nose:  What a conflict!
Chin: I want to relax, but I don’t have time
Collarbone: What if I could relax?
Under Arm: Wouldn’t that be nice?
Top of Head:  Can I allow myself to relax?

Take a deep breath.  If you feel triggered by any of this, do that tapping again.  Otherwise continue on…

Now for some positive tapping:

Eyebrow: I’m ready to relax now
Side of the Eye: Next time I have free time, I choose to relax, rather than think up another project
Under the Eye: I’m allowing myself to relax
Under Nose:  I’m entitled to a break
Chin: I can take one day off a week and the world won’t fall apart
Collarbone: I feel more relaxed already
Under Arm: I’m done with all that busyness
Top of Head:  Relaxation is a priority for me now.

Do these tapping sequences as many times as you need, varying the words to fit your specific situation.

Now, stop wishing for a relaxing summer and, with the help of tapping, create one!

I’m listening to Dr. Wayne Dyer’s The Power of Intention right now.  I have the CD’s, so I’m listening in 10 to 20 minute increments as I go about my errands and drive to and from work.  I love so much of what he is saying.

One thing I’m learning is that many teachers like Dr. Dyer, Bob Doyle, Abraham Hicks, David Morelli, and so many others (even biblical teachings) are all using different language to say the same thing.

They are all saying that inside each of us is the power to create our world.  Whether you call that something your soul, energy, essence, God, power, the matrix, the field of intention, love, source, universe, even the mind—it’s all the same.  We each create our reality with our thoughts, and our thoughts create what we perceive around us.  And it’s the “something” within us that does it.

It’s taken me several years to really wrap my head around this, so I won’t be upset if you disagree with me.  But even the Bible says that God is love, the kingdom of heaven is within you, and God is everywhere.  If this is true, then heaven is inside us just waiting to be let out, and we are the love which makes it all possible.

All of the law of attraction experts teach that ‘our thoughts create our reality’, and ‘what we focus on expands’.  Dr. Dyer’s way of discussing the issue is to say that what when we focus on what is “missing” in our lives, we get more of what’s missing!  If we focus on money being missing, we get more of money being missing.  If we focus on what’s missing in our relationships, we get more of that.  If we focus on what’s missing in our children (ie what they do that we think is “wrong”), we get more of that. Or, if you focus on “it’s always been this way”, we get more of that.

What if, instead, we focused on what we LOVE?  Then we would get MORE OF THAT!

Abraham says lots of people have “what-is-it is,” meaning we can’t see beyond the current situation.  But we can train ourselves to look at and focus on what we DO want, instead of what we have right now.  Don’t love your job?  What do you want?  Don’t like your bank account?  What do you want?  Don’t like your car?  What do you want?

If we turn our attention and intention to what we do want, the universe (or whatever you want to call it) will begin to make it happen.  Focusing on our intent, what we want, and releasing the resistance to it, are key.  You can change your focus to what you want, but if you are resisting it, you still won’t get it. 

This all sounds hard, doesn’t it?

It doesn’t have to be.  There are many techniques for releasing resistance, like meditation,  yoga, EFT/tapping, the POP technique (a new one I have learned) and many, many others.  You simply need to find your ‘resistance releaser’ of choice, and use it often.

I’m working on this myself, but I’m getting closer and closer to having everything that I want.  I can feel it.  Are you ready to start (or continue on) your journey to what you want?

Here are some tapping sequences to help you focus on Intention:

Karate Chop: Even though it’s hard to keep my focus on what I want, instead of what I have, I intend to get better at it every day.  Even though I don’t know how to phrase my intentions, I accept who I am and how I feel today.  Even though it’s all hard, I accept myself and I choose to change my life starting right now.

Eyebrow: I don’t know how to do intentions
Side of the Eye: I’ve done intentions but they haven’t worked
Under the Eye: I have too much resistance
Under Nose:  I want my intentions to work
Chin: I can change my life with my intentions
Collarbone: No I can’t, it’s too hard
Under Arm: Saying it’s too hard is “what-is-itis”
Top of Head:  What if I could begin to change my life?

Karate Chop: I wonder if setting intentions could change my life?
Eyebrow: It probably couldn’t hurt!
Side of the Eye: I intend to start setting intentions today!
Under the Eye: My intentions are what I WANT, and are stated in positive language
Under Nose:  I know my life will change if I do this consistently
Chin: I intend to release resistance to the life that I want, beginning right now
Collarbone: I intend to choose my life, not be a victim of my life.
Under Arm: What’s the first thing I want to intend?
Top of Head:  I intend _____________________________

Take a deep breath.  Repeat often, and tap on your intentions every day.  Tap on your resistance to what you want each and every time you feel it.  If you do this consistently, you will notice your life changing around you.

Every other article I have written has tapping sequences for different types of resistance.  They’re on my blog.  TheGuiltyMom.com has all the tapping sequences you could want to release the resistance of guilt.  To get more tapping sequences, just do an internet search of “eft tapping” and “whatever your issue” is, and I’m sure someone has written something about it.  Whatever “it” is.  Or, come to me and we’ll personalize tapping just for you.  I intend for my readers to find this information life changing!  Be well.

Today is Women’s Empowerment Day.  How do women become empowered?  I think it’s by owning our power.  If we can’t own our own power, then no one else will.  Maybe women hold so few political offices in the country because we tend to be more afraid of our power than men are.  Women will hide their power, men will flaunt it.  Women who DO own their power and flaunt it are usually called nasty names by the press and others in power, men or women.  We sabotage our own success, our own power because it does not seem to be safe to shine.

While we can’t change the media or other’s reactions to us, we can change how we feel inside, and become comfortable with our power, with the help of a little tapping.  So, let’s do some tapping to help us own our power.  Guys can do this too, of course.

Karate chop: Even though I’m afraid to own my power, I love and accept myself.  Even though I’m afraid of what they’ll say if I own my power, I accept who I am and how I feel.  Even though I’ve never been powerful, I’m open to the possibility of being powerful now.

Eyebrow: I’m not powerful
Side of the Eye: I’ve never been powerful
Under the Eye: It’s dangerous to be powerful
Under Nose:  I won’t be safe if I’m powerful
Chin: No women in my family are powerful
Collarbone: Why do I have to be the trailblazer?
Under Arm: I don’t think women can be feminine and powerful
Top of Head:  I don’t want to be seen like Hillary Clinton or Lynne Abraham are seen
Eyebrow: What if I don’t want to be powerful
Side of the Eye: What if I’m happy the way I am?
Under the Eye: Actually, it’s not true
Under Nose:  I’m not happy the way things are
Chin: I do think women should be able to own their power and not suffer for it
Collarbone:  What if I could own my power?
Under Arm: How would my life change if I owned my power?
Top of Head:  I’m worried about that

Take a deep breath.  Tapping can stir up old feelings and memories.  They are coming up so you can release them now.  What thoughts came to you while you were doing that tapping?  If particular thoughts, emotions or events are coming up in your mind, write them down and make your own phrases and do more tapping.  Just talk about them while you are tapping through the points.  You can’t do this wrong.  Once those feelings have calmed down, proceed to the next sequences.

Karate Chop: Even though I’m still kind of afraid of my power, I’m willing to consider that maybe I am powerful.  Even though being powerful seems scary, I’m ready to take that chance.  Even though I used to worry about what others thought of me, I’m ready to step into my power now.

Eyebrow:  I’m ready to own my power
Side of the Eye: It feels so good to own my power
Under the Eye: It feels natural to accept my personal power and let it shine
Under Nose:  I love feeling powerful!
Chin: It’s so exciting to know that I am powerful
Collarbone:  I’m not concerned about what others think of my power
Under Arm: I can control my thoughts, but not theirs
Top of Head:  I am woman, hear me roar!

Feel free to do that tapping more than once.  Take a deep breath.  Doesn’t that feel good?  Go get ‘em tiger!