What are your dreams?   If you are on a self-discovery path, you can probably rattle these off pretty quickly.  If you can’t rattle them off quickly, your first step is to spend some time daydreaming to remember what your big dreams were when you had them.  I’m giving you permission to be selfish here.  What are your dreams FOR YOURSELF?  While world peace and food on every table are valiant dreams, you can’t change the energy of each and every person on this planet.  I want you to focus on the dreams that you want for yourself personally.  Is it material objects?  New car?  Shore house?  iPad?  Independent wealth? Is it health?  Is it a fulfilling relationship?  Children?  What’s your big dream?

Take a few minutes and write down your biggest personal dreams.

Now that you’ve gotten in touch with your big dreams, take a few moments to ponder why you aren’t pursuing them.  We’re going to do some tapping on this. It would be helpful to write down some notes so you can tailor the tapping to your situation.  If you gave up on your dreams, when did that happen?  Why?  Do you believe your dreams are attainable?  If so, why?  If not, why not?

Let’s do some tapping about this: (don’t know how to tap? click here)

Karate Chop:  When though I haven’t achieved my biggest dreams yet, I deeply and completely accept myself.  Even though I’ve given up on my dreams, I’ll never get them, I accept who I am and how I feel.  Even though I’m not sure I can ever have my dreams, I choose to look at things differently now.

Eyebrow:  I haven’t achieved any of my big dreams.

Side of the Eye: What’s wrong with me?

Under the Eye: Why can’t I have my dreams?

Under Nose:  It’s not fair that they’ve done it and I haven’t

Chin: I’m never gonna get my dream

Collarbone: Why do I even bother to think about it

Under Arm: It’s too big

Top of Head:  But what if I could change my energy around this?

Take a deep breath.  Drink some water.  Check in with yourself.  Are you feeling some relief, or are you feeling worse now?  You may want to go back through the tapping points and tap on the reasons you gave up your dream.  This may take some time, and you may need to do the tapping more than once.  Tapping can be an instant fix, or it can take lots of tapping to make progress on an issue, so don’t give up.  You don’t stop brushing your teeth just because you have to do it every day.  Think the same way about your tapping.

When you are feeling some relief, continue on to the next round of tapping:

Eyebrow: Anyone can have their big dreams

Side of the Eye: Others have done it, and I can too

Under the Eye: What if I could match my energy to my dreams?

Under Nose:  Maybe I can draw my dreams to me

Chin: I’m willing to release my resistance to my dreams

Collarbone: I’m starting to be open to the idea that I can have my dreams

Under Arm: I’m willing to take the first step towards my dreams

Top of Head:  After I take the first step, I’ll take the next step.  I can achieve my dreams one step at a time.

Now, lather, rinse, repeat.  You can have your dreams.  But if you are convinced that you can’t, you need to make some shifts in your energy.  There are many ways to shift your energy, and one way to do that is through laughter.  That’s why I created the Manifest Your Dreams with Laughter Yoga workshop.  Consider coming to help you draw your dreams into your life!

I was moderately successful in life. I graduated from college, got a job, got married, went to law school, had a kid, got a job. I got mediocre grades, mediocre jobs. I went to work, did my job, kept the stiff upper lip. I’d come home and take my anger out on my family. At home, I could safely get mad, and I did. I’d get mad and stay mad.

Eventually I realized that my anger stemmed from feeling unworthy, not loved, not wanted, out of control. I was slightly afraid to fly, which I realized was related to my control issues. Fast forward a few years (doing EFT, intuitive healing and other modalities). Now, I actually have moments of happiness in my life! I never remember feeling happy before. I’m still on the path, but…

I’ve learned that I’m in control of my life, and I get to choose what I do and how I feel.

I’d love to hear your healing journey. Will you share it with me? Please sign up for my newsletter, and let’s start a dialog. If you haven’t begun your journey yet, or you need help along the way, I can help you to release those thoughts and beliefs that are making your life hard.

Peace, Kim Ruch-Alegant
Philadelphia Life Coach

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It’s a popular topic: taking back your power. 

the consequence of giving away your power?

Like many other components of the spiritual  

surrender – or experiencing the Divine within).

I can think of many times when I give my power  

I give my power when I get frustrated with  

in some situation – I give my power away.

When I get frustrated with – or blame