Today is Women’s Empowerment Day.  How do women become empowered?  I think it’s by owning our power.  If we can’t own our own power, then no one else will.  Maybe women hold so few political offices in the country because we tend to be more afraid of our power than men are.  Women will hide their power, men will flaunt it.  Women who DO own their power and flaunt it are usually called nasty names by the press and others in power, men or women.  We sabotage our own success, our own power because it does not seem to be safe to shine.

While we can’t change the media or other’s reactions to us, we can change how we feel inside, and become comfortable with our power, with the help of a little tapping.  So, let’s do some tapping to help us own our power.  Guys can do this too, of course.

Karate chop: Even though I’m afraid to own my power, I love and accept myself.  Even though I’m afraid of what they’ll say if I own my power, I accept who I am and how I feel.  Even though I’ve never been powerful, I’m open to the possibility of being powerful now.

Eyebrow: I’m not powerful
Side of the Eye: I’ve never been powerful
Under the Eye: It’s dangerous to be powerful
Under Nose:  I won’t be safe if I’m powerful
Chin: No women in my family are powerful
Collarbone: Why do I have to be the trailblazer?
Under Arm: I don’t think women can be feminine and powerful
Top of Head:  I don’t want to be seen like Hillary Clinton or Lynne Abraham are seen
Eyebrow: What if I don’t want to be powerful
Side of the Eye: What if I’m happy the way I am?
Under the Eye: Actually, it’s not true
Under Nose:  I’m not happy the way things are
Chin: I do think women should be able to own their power and not suffer for it
Collarbone:  What if I could own my power?
Under Arm: How would my life change if I owned my power?
Top of Head:  I’m worried about that

Take a deep breath.  Tapping can stir up old feelings and memories.  They are coming up so you can release them now.  What thoughts came to you while you were doing that tapping?  If particular thoughts, emotions or events are coming up in your mind, write them down and make your own phrases and do more tapping.  Just talk about them while you are tapping through the points.  You can’t do this wrong.  Once those feelings have calmed down, proceed to the next sequences.

Karate Chop: Even though I’m still kind of afraid of my power, I’m willing to consider that maybe I am powerful.  Even though being powerful seems scary, I’m ready to take that chance.  Even though I used to worry about what others thought of me, I’m ready to step into my power now.

Eyebrow:  I’m ready to own my power
Side of the Eye: It feels so good to own my power
Under the Eye: It feels natural to accept my personal power and let it shine
Under Nose:  I love feeling powerful!
Chin: It’s so exciting to know that I am powerful
Collarbone:  I’m not concerned about what others think of my power
Under Arm: I can control my thoughts, but not theirs
Top of Head:  I am woman, hear me roar!

Feel free to do that tapping more than once.  Take a deep breath.  Doesn’t that feel good?  Go get ‘em tiger!

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In this workshop you will:

• Learn how to notice when you eating when you are not hungry
• Learn how to use energy healing (Emotional Freedom Technique-EFT or tapping) when you start feeling like you need to eat for emotional reasons
• Begin to address some of the underlying reasons for why you overeat
• Put together a plan for how you are going to begin using the tools you will learn

Date and Time:  Thursday, May 12th, 2011. 7:00 to 9:00 PM 

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Teleseminar. The call in information and handouts will be sent to you via email after you register. THE CALL WILL BE RECORDED, AND YOU WILL BE ABLE TO DOWNLOAD IT TO LISTEN TO IT AGAIN.

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Do you feel stressed out almost every day?  Do you get angry quickly?  Do you feel anxious throughout the day?

EFT/tapping is a great tool for handling these negative emotions.  You will begin releasing your stress, anger and anxiety in the workshop.  You will also learn tools besides tapping to release stress, anger and anxiety.

Once you do EFT regularly you will:

• Sleep better
• Manage your stress better
• Feel less angry, and
• Release your anxiety permanently.

In this workshop you will:

• Learn techniques to manage stress and anxiety
• Learn how tapping every day can make you less stressed, angry and anxious
• Leave with tools you can apply immediately and improve your life dramatically

Date and Time:  Wednesday, May 11, 2011. 7:00 to 9:00 PM 

Location:  67 Buck Road, Huntingdon Valley, PA 19006

Click here to register online or download the form to fax or mail.

Call 215-357-6474 with questions.  Mail the form to the address to register.  If using a credit card, you may fax this form to 215-354-0058, or register online through our website.

I’ve never considered myself a creative person.  I can’t draw or paint or write poetry.  I can sing a little, but never had lessons or anything.  I don’t play an instrument or write songs.  So when a friend told me that I am very creative, it really gave me pause.  What?  I’m creative?  She said yes-look at all that you have created in your life.

As I thought more about it, I realized she’s right!  While I may not be artistic, I have created a lot in my life.  I’ve created a marriage and a family, a law firm and an energy coaching business, some nice websites (TheGuiltyMom.com is especially cool and has the potential to help thousands of moms- shameless self promotion), the crazy gardens around my house, etc.

Just because I’m not artistic doesn’t mean that I’m not creative.  What an epiphany.

I’ll bet I’m not the only one who feels this way.  How many of you don’t think of yourself as creative?  But I bet if you look around you life, you’ll see many wonderful things that you’ve created (and maybe some not so wonderful, but we all have created everything around us-that’s another article on the law of attraction).

If you could begin to recognize your innate creativity, you will be able to create even more great stuff in your life.  So, let’s do some tapping on this:

Karate Chop:  Even though I’m not creative, I love and accept myself.  Even though I don’t know how to make things, I accept who I am and how I feel.  Even though I know I’m not creative, I open to the possibility that maybe I can be.

Eyebrow: I’m not creative.
Side of the Eye: I can’t sing or draw or write.
Under the Eye: That’s what creative people do, right?
Under Nose:  That’s not who I am.
Chin: I don’t make things.
Collarbone: You have to make things to be creative.
Under Arm: What if I am creative?
Top of Head:  No, I know that I’m not.

Eyebrow: I’m not good at creative stuff.
Side of the Eye: That’s not what I do.
Under the Eye: I break stuff, I don’t create it.
Under Nose:  What if I’m wrong?
Chin: What if I do create stuff?
Collarbone: Maybe it’s not fine art, but I think I have created things.
Under Arm: But no one is interested in what I create.
Top of Head:  Who am I kidding, I’m not creative.

Take a deep breath and notice your thoughts.  Jot down any thoughts that came up and tap on them now.  Once you have cleared some of your negative emotions around this, move to the next tapping sequence.

Continue tapping.
Eyebrow: I’ve changed my mind.
Side of the Eye: I am creative.
Under the Eye: I’ve created so many great things in my life.
Under Nose:  Just because it’s not art, doesn’t mean it’s not creative.
Chin: Just living my life is a form of creativity.
Collarbone: I love knowing that I’m creative!
Under Arm: It takes many types of creativity to make the world go ‘round.

Top of Head:  My creativity is different than anyone else’s.
Eyebrow: I love MY brand of creativity.
Side of the Eye: It’s just right for me.
Under the Eye: Look at all the wonderful things I’ve created.
Under Nose:  I’m ready to create more.
Chin: I accept that I’m a creative person.
Collarbone: I can’t wait to create something else.
Under Arm: I create my life.
Top of Head:  I look forward to creating my life even better then it is right now.

Take a deep breath, get a drink of water and notice your thoughts.  Jot down any thoughts that came up and tap on them now.  Now go out there and make something!

I have a powerful video for you to
watch from the fr*ee pre-event video series for the
upcoming 2011Tapping World Summit. 

This video is with international known expert Cheryl
Richardson, a best-selling author of 5 books who is
best known as one of the world’s foremost personal
coaching pioneers.

Cheryl has appeared on shows like The Oprah Winfrey
Show, Good Morning America and The Today Show
just to name a few.

You can see this fr*ee video by going here

In this video Cheryl talks out the #1 thing that locks
fear, anxiety and an inability to take positive action
into place…

I think this video hits on a really important topic for
most people because as I’m sure you’d agree with
me, taking action on information you learn is just
as important as learning the information in the first
place.

If you feel like you’d like to be implementing more
of what you learn to get better results in your life
then I suggest watching this video.

It’s the 3rd in the fr*ee Tapping World Summit Video
series that has been released over the last week. 

Over 120,000 people have watched the first two
videos with experts Jack Canfield and Bruce Lipton.

There are also nearly 3,000 comments of praise
and appreciation for the amazing videos on the
blog that is hosting them.

I think that what is going on with this video series
and the upcoming 2011 Tapping World Summit
is something very special and unique that is
worth checking out.

Enjoy the video with Cheryl and if you haven’t
yet seen the videos with Jack Canfield and Bruce
Lipton make sure to watch those also. 

Here’s the link

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P.S. -  I want to emphasize that this is one of the
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P.P.S – And if you want to learn more about the
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on February 21st then make sure to click on the
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in the navigation bar when you get to the blog. 

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How do you handle disappointment? I’ve been pondering this the last few days.  You probably know that in addition to being a coach I’m a lawyer who represents people who have been injured.  I was scheduled to start a trial on Monday, February 7th.  I spent the last two weeks preparing for this trial.  I was immersing myself in the case, only to find out the Friday before we were supposed to start that no judge was available.  Monday we found out the next possible trial date is in May.  What a let down!

I wanted this case to go to trial.  I have time and money invested in this case, and I would like there to be a conclusion.  Now I have at least three more months to wait, if not longer. 

So, how do I handle this?  First, I have to make my brain change gears.  This is taking a few days.  I was ready to work all weekend, and suddenly found I had the weekend free. I thought I wasn’t going to be able to watch the Superbowl.  I got to.  My disappointment is offset somewhat by the free time I now have.  So I am of two minds about this.  How do I reconcile these conflicting feelings?

How many times in life do situations happen which have both positive aspects and negative aspects?  All the time!  The old double-edged sword.  Something as major as death or divorce, or something as minor as the store not having the soda we wanted to buy can leave us feeling conflicted.  I’m sad that someone died, but happy that they are no longer in pain.  I will miss them, but I’m happy that I inherited money.  Someone may be happy to get out of a lousy marriage but feel bad because their children no longer have a nuclear family.  I wanted orange crush, but now I have to get ginger ale. Okay, maybe that’s no big deal.

So what are we to do when we feel happy and sad about something?  Conflicting feelings can lead to us feeling guilty about our feelings, which then makes us feel even more sad.  What’s a person to do?  How about some EFT/tapping?

Tapping can help resolve the conflicting feelings we have.  We may be upset because this particular event is reminding us of something which happened in the past.  If that is true, tap on today’s event and then tap on the event in the past.  Or you can tap on “I don’t know what this is reminding me of, but I choose to release these negative memories now.”

So let’s do some tapping on this:

-Think about a situation that you feel conflicted about.  Give it a name, like a movie title.

KC:  Even though I am disappointed and relieved at the same time about {title}, I deeply and completely accept myself.  Even though I wish I wasn’t conflicted about {title}, I love and accept myself anyway.  Even though I feel guilty about this conflict, I choose to start releasing the conflict now.

EB: I’m disappointed and relieved about {title}

SE:  I feel so conflicted

UE: How can I be happy and sad at the same time?

UN: What’s wrong with me?

CH: Am I crazy?

CB:  Maybe I can accept my craziness about {title}

UA: I wish I didn’t feel guilty and conflicted.

TH:  What if I could release this conflict?

EB: I’m ready to start releasing my conflicting feelings about {title}

SE:  I accept that I feel conflicted

UE: I forgive myself for being conflicted about {title}

UN: It’s normal to have conflicting feelings

CH: I accept who I am and how I feel

CB:  Feeling more relaxed about {title}

UA: I forgive myself for feeling guilty and conflicted.

TH:  I choose to accept myself anyway.

Take a deep breath.  Make sure you are hydrated.  How are you feeling now?  Did you remember what this present event reminds you of?  If so, do some more tapping.  If other feelings came to mind, tap on those feelings too. 

I think one of the biggest blessings that EFT has to offer is that it helps us to accept ourselves, warts and all.  Each of us could probably tap every single day on “Even though I’m not perfect, I love and accept myself anyway” and then using the reminder phrases “I’m not perfect” and “I love/accept myself anyway”.  What do you think?  Are you willing to try it for a week and see if you feel different at the end?    You could write in your journal how accepting you are of yourself, on a scale of 1 to 10.  Then do the tapping every day, and at the end of the week, check in and see where you are. I’d love to hear your results!

Related to, but separate from guilt, is stress from the holidays. We want to fit it all in and do it all right, but unless we clone ourselves, it’s usually impossible to do everything.  Take some time and do some tapping around your particular areas of stress.  Each of us stresses about different things.  I give you some suggestions below, but for you to feel relief, be sure you tailor the phrases to what you need to tap on.

Begin tapping:
KC:  Even though I feel stressed and out of control, I accept who I am and how I feel. Even though there is too much to do and not enough time to do it in, I love and accept myself anyway. Even though I’m worried they won’t love me if I don’t do it perfectly, I choose to feel calm and confident.
TH: I’m feeling so stressed, I’ll never get it all done
EB: I have to buy all the presents, and not spend too much money
SE: They won’t fell loved if I don’t get the right present
UE: I have to live up to their expectations
UN: There’s too much to do and not enough time to do it
CH: I don’t want to disappoint anyone
CB: The house is too messy
UA: I feel so disorganized!

Take a cleansing breath.  If you have more areas of stress, tap on them now.

KC: Even though I want to enjoy the holidays, I feel stressed right now.  Even though I have a lot to do, I choose to relax and enjoy myself too. I know this is a busy time of year, but I choose to be calm and relax this holiday season.
TH: It seems like everyone is stressed this time of year
EB: But I don’t have to buy into the frenzy
SE: I choose to be calm and confident in my holiday preparations
UE: I am going to enjoy this holiday season
UN: I manage myself and my time, and I choose to remain calm and relaxed
CH: I don’t need to do it all
CB: I am confident I can get done the necessities
UA: I intend to enjoy this holiday season

Take a cleansing breath.  Keep on tapping and breathing!

It’s the most wonderful time of the year…or is it?  It seems to me that it CAN be the most wonderful, or the worst, time of the year.  It is fun to get together with friends and family (well, maybe on the family part).  It is fun to get out the decorations and the memories that go with them.  The special tree ornaments, or the decoration that someone who is no longer on the planet gave you can bring back fond memories.

But when we spend our time trying to live up to someone else’s expectations, the season can cause guilty feelings.  If the decorations have to be “just so” and the presents have to be “just right”, everyone in the family has to agree on the gathering, and all the food at the party has to be homemade, the guilt and stress just keeps piling on.

So, what can we do about this?  Tapping, of course!  I’ll suggest some tapping sequences. If you have areas of holiday guilt, I don’t mention, please do tap on those areas as well.

Begin tapping:
KC:  Even though I have to make everything perfect for Christmas, I love and accept myself.  Even though I must live up to everyone’s expectations, I accept who I am and how I feel.  Even though I drive myself crazy every year, I love and forgive myself anyway.
TH: If I don’t get it all perfect, I’ll feel guilty.
EB: I’m worried about doing everything just right
SE: They won’t like it if it’s not perfect
UE: It’s only a party if I make all the food myself
UN: I have to have the perfect presents
CN: I have to have the right clothes
CB: We all have to agree on when and where the family will get together
UA: If we don’t all agree it won’t be perfect

Take a deep cleansing breath.  If you have different areas of guilt, tap on them now.

KC: Maybe I can relax and enjoy the holidays this year.  What if I didn’t drive myself crazy? I choose to enjoy myself and my family this year without everything having to be perfect.
TH: What if I could relax?
EB: I can choose to relax and enjoy my holidays
SE: Everything can be good enough, it doesn’t have to be perfect
UE: I like enjoying the holidays
UN: I’m releasing my holiday stress now
CN: I’m doing my best, and that is enough
CB: Everything I do is enough
UA: I love enjoying this season!

Take a deep cleansing breath

Be sure to make time to be by yourself.  While the fun and crowds are great, we all need time to recharge our batteries too.

I just got back from Colorado for our first Enwaken Coaching training.  Enwaken coaching is about using your intuition to “read” people’s energy. One of the things David Morelli, our teacher, kept saying is that EVERYONE CAN DO THIS.  By this he means, everyone can access their intuition and get answers (and that everyone can see energy, with practice-but don’t let that scare you away!).

On Twitter today (I’m FreedomHealing by the way-follow me) someone posted a quote about how the answers are always within.  You may remember that I’ve written a few newsletters about the “Turning Passion Into Profits” seminar that I attended. After that seminar, I began using EFT/tapping while saying affirmations each day.  The tapping allows you to clear any resistance you have to what it is that you are affirming.  The phrasing of affirmations is very important.  They need to be written in positive phrasing and in present tense.  Not “Money is coming to me” but “I have as much money as I want and need”.  See the difference?  (Feel free to contact me if you want some help to write your affirmations.)  I’ve been tapping and saying my affirmations before I go to bed at night ever since the seminar.

So, one of my affirmations was “I am able to access my intuition at all times”.  I affirmed this because too often my gut has told me to do or not do something, I haven’t listened, and I’ve not been happy about it.  So I was determined to get better about listening to my gut, which is where your “yes/no” intuition lies.  (One thing I learned from David Morelli is that there are different kinds of intuition in different parts of your body, loosely associated with your chakras.)

After a few months of tapping on “I am able to access my intuition at all times” I listened to an interview Bob Doyle did with David Morelli.  David did some mediation type exercises and then offered his Enwaken coaching program at the end.  How could I turn this down?  I had been asking to be able to access my intuition, and here I was listening to this offer.  I couldn’t say no, so now I am learning how to do intuitive readings of people’s energy.

As an aside, if you’ve never experienced EFT/tapping or want to try out my new intuitive energy reading skills, I’d be happy to give you 15 minutes of my time.

So I challenge you to write some affirmations for yourself, and say them while doing some tapping.  Do this at least once a day, but two or three times a day would be even better.  You will be very surprised at what happens with your life.  How do you determine what affirmations you need, you ask?  Listen to your intuition!