I’m listening to Dr. Wayne Dyer’s The Power of Intention right now.  I have the CD’s, so I’m listening in 10 to 20 minute increments as I go about my errands and drive to and from work.  I love so much of what he is saying.

One thing I’m learning is that many teachers like Dr. Dyer, Bob Doyle, Abraham Hicks, David Morelli, and so many others (even biblical teachings) are all using different language to say the same thing.

They are all saying that inside each of us is the power to create our world.  Whether you call that something your soul, energy, essence, God, power, the matrix, the field of intention, love, source, universe, even the mind—it’s all the same.  We each create our reality with our thoughts, and our thoughts create what we perceive around us.  And it’s the “something” within us that does it.

It’s taken me several years to really wrap my head around this, so I won’t be upset if you disagree with me.  But even the Bible says that God is love, the kingdom of heaven is within you, and God is everywhere.  If this is true, then heaven is inside us just waiting to be let out, and we are the love which makes it all possible.

All of the law of attraction experts teach that ‘our thoughts create our reality’, and ‘what we focus on expands’.  Dr. Dyer’s way of discussing the issue is to say that what when we focus on what is “missing” in our lives, we get more of what’s missing!  If we focus on money being missing, we get more of money being missing.  If we focus on what’s missing in our relationships, we get more of that.  If we focus on what’s missing in our children (ie what they do that we think is “wrong”), we get more of that. Or, if you focus on “it’s always been this way”, we get more of that.

What if, instead, we focused on what we LOVE?  Then we would get MORE OF THAT!

Abraham says lots of people have “what-is-it is,” meaning we can’t see beyond the current situation.  But we can train ourselves to look at and focus on what we DO want, instead of what we have right now.  Don’t love your job?  What do you want?  Don’t like your bank account?  What do you want?  Don’t like your car?  What do you want?

If we turn our attention and intention to what we do want, the universe (or whatever you want to call it) will begin to make it happen.  Focusing on our intent, what we want, and releasing the resistance to it, are key.  You can change your focus to what you want, but if you are resisting it, you still won’t get it. 

This all sounds hard, doesn’t it?

It doesn’t have to be.  There are many techniques for releasing resistance, like meditation,  yoga, EFT/tapping, the POP technique (a new one I have learned) and many, many others.  You simply need to find your ‘resistance releaser’ of choice, and use it often.

I’m working on this myself, but I’m getting closer and closer to having everything that I want.  I can feel it.  Are you ready to start (or continue on) your journey to what you want?

Here are some tapping sequences to help you focus on Intention:

Karate Chop: Even though it’s hard to keep my focus on what I want, instead of what I have, I intend to get better at it every day.  Even though I don’t know how to phrase my intentions, I accept who I am and how I feel today.  Even though it’s all hard, I accept myself and I choose to change my life starting right now.

Eyebrow: I don’t know how to do intentions
Side of the Eye: I’ve done intentions but they haven’t worked
Under the Eye: I have too much resistance
Under Nose:  I want my intentions to work
Chin: I can change my life with my intentions
Collarbone: No I can’t, it’s too hard
Under Arm: Saying it’s too hard is “what-is-itis”
Top of Head:  What if I could begin to change my life?

Karate Chop: I wonder if setting intentions could change my life?
Eyebrow: It probably couldn’t hurt!
Side of the Eye: I intend to start setting intentions today!
Under the Eye: My intentions are what I WANT, and are stated in positive language
Under Nose:  I know my life will change if I do this consistently
Chin: I intend to release resistance to the life that I want, beginning right now
Collarbone: I intend to choose my life, not be a victim of my life.
Under Arm: What’s the first thing I want to intend?
Top of Head:  I intend _____________________________

Take a deep breath.  Repeat often, and tap on your intentions every day.  Tap on your resistance to what you want each and every time you feel it.  If you do this consistently, you will notice your life changing around you.

Every other article I have written has tapping sequences for different types of resistance.  They’re on my blog.  TheGuiltyMom.com has all the tapping sequences you could want to release the resistance of guilt.  To get more tapping sequences, just do an internet search of “eft tapping” and “whatever your issue” is, and I’m sure someone has written something about it.  Whatever “it” is.  Or, come to me and we’ll personalize tapping just for you.  I intend for my readers to find this information life changing!  Be well.

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How do you handle disappointment? I’ve been pondering this the last few days.  You probably know that in addition to being a coach I’m a lawyer who represents people who have been injured.  I was scheduled to start a trial on Monday, February 7th.  I spent the last two weeks preparing for this trial.  I was immersing myself in the case, only to find out the Friday before we were supposed to start that no judge was available.  Monday we found out the next possible trial date is in May.  What a let down!

I wanted this case to go to trial.  I have time and money invested in this case, and I would like there to be a conclusion.  Now I have at least three more months to wait, if not longer. 

So, how do I handle this?  First, I have to make my brain change gears.  This is taking a few days.  I was ready to work all weekend, and suddenly found I had the weekend free. I thought I wasn’t going to be able to watch the Superbowl.  I got to.  My disappointment is offset somewhat by the free time I now have.  So I am of two minds about this.  How do I reconcile these conflicting feelings?

How many times in life do situations happen which have both positive aspects and negative aspects?  All the time!  The old double-edged sword.  Something as major as death or divorce, or something as minor as the store not having the soda we wanted to buy can leave us feeling conflicted.  I’m sad that someone died, but happy that they are no longer in pain.  I will miss them, but I’m happy that I inherited money.  Someone may be happy to get out of a lousy marriage but feel bad because their children no longer have a nuclear family.  I wanted orange crush, but now I have to get ginger ale. Okay, maybe that’s no big deal.

So what are we to do when we feel happy and sad about something?  Conflicting feelings can lead to us feeling guilty about our feelings, which then makes us feel even more sad.  What’s a person to do?  How about some EFT/tapping?

Tapping can help resolve the conflicting feelings we have.  We may be upset because this particular event is reminding us of something which happened in the past.  If that is true, tap on today’s event and then tap on the event in the past.  Or you can tap on “I don’t know what this is reminding me of, but I choose to release these negative memories now.”

So let’s do some tapping on this:

-Think about a situation that you feel conflicted about.  Give it a name, like a movie title.

KC:  Even though I am disappointed and relieved at the same time about {title}, I deeply and completely accept myself.  Even though I wish I wasn’t conflicted about {title}, I love and accept myself anyway.  Even though I feel guilty about this conflict, I choose to start releasing the conflict now.

EB: I’m disappointed and relieved about {title}

SE:  I feel so conflicted

UE: How can I be happy and sad at the same time?

UN: What’s wrong with me?

CH: Am I crazy?

CB:  Maybe I can accept my craziness about {title}

UA: I wish I didn’t feel guilty and conflicted.

TH:  What if I could release this conflict?

EB: I’m ready to start releasing my conflicting feelings about {title}

SE:  I accept that I feel conflicted

UE: I forgive myself for being conflicted about {title}

UN: It’s normal to have conflicting feelings

CH: I accept who I am and how I feel

CB:  Feeling more relaxed about {title}

UA: I forgive myself for feeling guilty and conflicted.

TH:  I choose to accept myself anyway.

Take a deep breath.  Make sure you are hydrated.  How are you feeling now?  Did you remember what this present event reminds you of?  If so, do some more tapping.  If other feelings came to mind, tap on those feelings too. 

I think one of the biggest blessings that EFT has to offer is that it helps us to accept ourselves, warts and all.  Each of us could probably tap every single day on “Even though I’m not perfect, I love and accept myself anyway” and then using the reminder phrases “I’m not perfect” and “I love/accept myself anyway”.  What do you think?  Are you willing to try it for a week and see if you feel different at the end?    You could write in your journal how accepting you are of yourself, on a scale of 1 to 10.  Then do the tapping every day, and at the end of the week, check in and see where you are. I’d love to hear your results!

Related to, but separate from guilt, is stress from the holidays. We want to fit it all in and do it all right, but unless we clone ourselves, it’s usually impossible to do everything.  Take some time and do some tapping around your particular areas of stress.  Each of us stresses about different things.  I give you some suggestions below, but for you to feel relief, be sure you tailor the phrases to what you need to tap on.

Begin tapping:
KC:  Even though I feel stressed and out of control, I accept who I am and how I feel. Even though there is too much to do and not enough time to do it in, I love and accept myself anyway. Even though I’m worried they won’t love me if I don’t do it perfectly, I choose to feel calm and confident.
TH: I’m feeling so stressed, I’ll never get it all done
EB: I have to buy all the presents, and not spend too much money
SE: They won’t fell loved if I don’t get the right present
UE: I have to live up to their expectations
UN: There’s too much to do and not enough time to do it
CH: I don’t want to disappoint anyone
CB: The house is too messy
UA: I feel so disorganized!

Take a cleansing breath.  If you have more areas of stress, tap on them now.

KC: Even though I want to enjoy the holidays, I feel stressed right now.  Even though I have a lot to do, I choose to relax and enjoy myself too. I know this is a busy time of year, but I choose to be calm and relax this holiday season.
TH: It seems like everyone is stressed this time of year
EB: But I don’t have to buy into the frenzy
SE: I choose to be calm and confident in my holiday preparations
UE: I am going to enjoy this holiday season
UN: I manage myself and my time, and I choose to remain calm and relaxed
CH: I don’t need to do it all
CB: I am confident I can get done the necessities
UA: I intend to enjoy this holiday season

Take a cleansing breath.  Keep on tapping and breathing!

It’s the most wonderful time of the year…or is it?  It seems to me that it CAN be the most wonderful, or the worst, time of the year.  It is fun to get together with friends and family (well, maybe on the family part).  It is fun to get out the decorations and the memories that go with them.  The special tree ornaments, or the decoration that someone who is no longer on the planet gave you can bring back fond memories.

But when we spend our time trying to live up to someone else’s expectations, the season can cause guilty feelings.  If the decorations have to be “just so” and the presents have to be “just right”, everyone in the family has to agree on the gathering, and all the food at the party has to be homemade, the guilt and stress just keeps piling on.

So, what can we do about this?  Tapping, of course!  I’ll suggest some tapping sequences. If you have areas of holiday guilt, I don’t mention, please do tap on those areas as well.

Begin tapping:
KC:  Even though I have to make everything perfect for Christmas, I love and accept myself.  Even though I must live up to everyone’s expectations, I accept who I am and how I feel.  Even though I drive myself crazy every year, I love and forgive myself anyway.
TH: If I don’t get it all perfect, I’ll feel guilty.
EB: I’m worried about doing everything just right
SE: They won’t like it if it’s not perfect
UE: It’s only a party if I make all the food myself
UN: I have to have the perfect presents
CN: I have to have the right clothes
CB: We all have to agree on when and where the family will get together
UA: If we don’t all agree it won’t be perfect

Take a deep cleansing breath.  If you have different areas of guilt, tap on them now.

KC: Maybe I can relax and enjoy the holidays this year.  What if I didn’t drive myself crazy? I choose to enjoy myself and my family this year without everything having to be perfect.
TH: What if I could relax?
EB: I can choose to relax and enjoy my holidays
SE: Everything can be good enough, it doesn’t have to be perfect
UE: I like enjoying the holidays
UN: I’m releasing my holiday stress now
CN: I’m doing my best, and that is enough
CB: Everything I do is enough
UA: I love enjoying this season!

Take a deep cleansing breath

Be sure to make time to be by yourself.  While the fun and crowds are great, we all need time to recharge our batteries too.

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I have a conflict-I want to work, I don’t want to work

I know I have felt conflict because I wanted or needed to be working, but I also wanted and needed to be with my children.  This leads to feeling very unfulfilled, because we are never present.  At work our thoughts are with our children and when with our children our thoughts are at work.  Or we feel like we are doing so many things, but we are not doing any of them well.  This leads to more guilt and frustration.

Below are some suggested tapping sequences for these feelings.  Feel free to change the wording for your particular situation, and to do the rounds more than once.  The more you tap, the more relief you will get.  I suggest you tap more on the positive aspects, unless you have some very powerful reactions to the negative aspects.  In that case, keep working on the negative until you feel you have processed it. (If you don’t know how to do this, click here for a video or here for a picture)

KC:  Even though I have this conflict, I want to work, want to be with my kids, I love and accept myself anyway Guilt feels so bad, I don’t want to feel it anymore, maybe I’m ready to let it go.  I accept who I am and how I feel.  Even though I feel the guilt in my body, I love and accept my body anyway

Tapping:
TH: These guilty feelings in my body
EB: If only I didn’t have to work-but I like to work, need to work, I spent all that time in school
SE: I feel guilty but I accept my feelings and they are okay
UE: I like my job but hate leaving my kids
UN: I’m so glad I don’t feel guilty anymore. Yeah right.  I still feel guilty.
CH: Don’t want to let go of my guilt bc I deserve to be punished for leaving them
CB: It’s safe to let go of the guilt. No, it’s not safe to get it go.
UA: I’m carrying around all this guilt because I work. Why do I have to work? Because I need the job. 
TH: My source wants me to give up my guilt.  I intend to get relief from my guilty feelings starting right now

Take a deep breath. Take a drink of water.

If particular thought, emotion or reaction came up, you should make a note of it, and then you can tap on it some more, making up your own phrases. Don’t get caught up in the language.  Just say what you feel, and you will begin working through the emotions.  Once you’re ready, move on to the sequences below.

POSITIVE TAPPING:
TH: I deserve to have what I want!
EB: I can imagine having what I want
SE: I allow myself to have what I want
UE: I can work if I want to
UN: I don’t need to feel guilty about this anymore. 
CB: I like working, and that’s okay
UA: If I let it go, something might change
TH: My kids have turned out pretty damn good
EB: Their faults are their own, they are not because I work
SE: I am enough, there is enough, I’m doing enough
UE: I’m doing the best I can and it is enough
UN: I forgive me, him, her
CB: I accept responsibility for going to work.  It is not damaging my children.
UA: I love feeling good about working
TH: I’m okay just how I am. I accept who I am and how I feel. I love this freedom to feel good.

Take a deep breath. Take a drink of water.  Try to do a couple of tapping rounds each and every day.  If you tap while going to the bathroom, it will help keep you feeling good throughout the day.  You don’t need to say anything.  But you can spend time working with words as well.  Just don’t let the words stop you from tapping.

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A couple of months ago, I wrote about a method of stress relief where you make a list of things that are stressing you right now, and you begin to tap on them. Hopefully the tapping begins to reveal events in your past that still have an emotional charge (which means they are still affecting you today), and when you tap on that past event, you release the charge.  The event becomes a non-issue.

See, the thing is, all events are really neutral.  It is YOU who decides whether an event is positive or negative, by your interpretation and your reaction to it.  Or it is the people around us, and we tend to go along with how they feel.  For instance, getting fired from a job may be a horrid thing to one person, but to another it may be a blessing.  The same with a divorce. 

The important thing to remember is that it is YOU who controls your response to a situation.  You can decide to become angry and harbor resentment, or you can decide to recognize that the person who made you so mad was only doing the best that they could, and did not hurt you on purpose.

I know, it is easy to sit here with my computer and write such things.  But once you start to apply it to your life, it is very freeing.  Everything in life is about choice.  Some people are natural optimists, or natural pessimists (is the glass half full or half empty?)  BUT, just because you tend to be one or the other, does not mean that the pessimist cannot turn over a new leaf and begin to make a conscious effort to see things in a more positive light.  I know, because I am a natural born pessimist.  But over the last few years I have begun to be more positive about things.  Of course, in times of stress it is easy to revert to my old ways.  That is why it is important to have constant reminders that it is I who choose my reactions to things.  It is I who chooses whether the glass is half full or half empty.

A guy who does a lot of thinking about being positive (or should I say staying positive) is Jon Gordon.  I saw him speak at the eWomenNetwork conference a few years ago, and bought what I think was his first book called The Energy Addict.  Jon Gordon has written several books about how to be positive (i.e. keep you energy spiraling up instead of down), how to stay positive, and how to hang around with positive people, and how all of this will affect your life for the better.  In fact, I think most, if not all, of the self-help gurus write and talk about how your mindset affects your life. 

Zig Ziglar and even Jeffrey Gittomer (who wrote awesome sales training books) talk about how it is your attitude, or your thoughts, mindset, reactions (whatever you want to call it) which really affect your life and outcomes in your life.  The more positive things you can see in your mind, the more positive things will actually happen outside of your mind.  I don’t mean hallucinating.  I mean interpreting events in a positive way.  This also leads to being able to see the next step.  Like, where to go from here.

So what does tapping (EFT) have to do with any of this?  When you find yourself stuck in focusing on the glass being half empty, you can use tapping to change your energy and change your thoughts about what is going, and so reduce your stress levels (and get that energy spiraling back up).  So, you can tap on “even though I am feeling negative right now, I choose to turn it around and begin to feel positive”, “I choose to see the glass half full”, “even though I can’t see what is good about this situation, I choose to know that soon I will recognize the positive” and other similar phrases.  Or, I choose to start releasing my anger now.

The trick really is remembering to use the tools you have in your toolbox (tapping and others) to make yourself feel better.  The self-help gurus all say to write things on post-its and hang it on your bathroom mirror.  Jeffrey Gittomer even has a system where when something is a goal, it goes on the bathroom mirror.  Once the goal has been achieved, the post-it goes on your bedroom mirror, to remind you of what you have accomplished, and help you feel good.  To help yourself remember to tap, you could always do the post-it method, but hang them where you think you’ll have the opportunity to tap.  If you can tap while you’re on the phone, hang one there.  If you can tap while you are driving, put a post-it in the car.

How are you going to remind yourself to use your positive attitude tools?  Do it now!

We have a guest author this month.  This version of the article is a longer one than is in the email newsletter.  The italics are the tapping sequences. 

By Margaret Munoz – EFT Practitioner

The end of all problems.

How could that be possible?

And yet it is, when we’re able to access ‘the most important dimension of human existence – the sacred, the stillness, the formless, the divine’. 

If you’re new to EFT you could be grateful to discover that EFT fixes your headache in three minutes, or that you’re now free of the anxiety caused by a past trauma.  This is indeed wonderful, but what is even more wonderful is that EFT can also be used at the most profound level to help you bring about a shift in consciousness so that you experience peace, joy and fulfilment.

Humanity is now taking a quantum leap forward in its evolutionary development and one of the leading teachers in this development is Eckharte Tolle, the author of “The Power of Now” and “The New Earth”.  Following his own experience of transformation he is a particularly clear teacher of ancient wisdoms.  We learn from these teachings that the ultimate freedom is to live the realisation that all problems are created in the mind and that there are no problems when you access the eternal present. 

The freedom bit sounds great, so does peace, joy and fulfilment but how on earth do you get to feel like that when you’re busy, stressed to the hilt, dashing around with ‘to do’ lists in your head, trying to pay the rent or mortgage, look after the kids, deal with difficult relationships, the technology revolution, information overload, as well as battle fears, anxieties and addictions.  Let’s not even mention the incessant critical voice in your head.  Does it ever stop?

It’s difficult to know where to begin but a good place would be to make a decision to create some space for yourself and at the same time make a commitment to support yourself by consistently tapping on whatever obstacles are in your path.  Use your preferred method of tapping and let the suggestions I give you trigger off your own tapping sequences. 

First of all, make that decision!

Even though I’m so busy and stressed, and I don’t see any way out of it, I choose to find space and time for myself.

Even though I’m so busy with _______ (work deadlines/business/family/travelling/social commitments etc.) that I don’t have time for myself, I deeply and completely accept myself in this moment.

It’s really pretty difficult to find any stillness when you’re always on the move:

Even though I always seem to be rushing, I choose to STOP, and create space for myself.

After all, what are you achieving by all this doing?  That’s a question a great many apparently successful people ask themselves.  There can be great wealth or great achievement but despite this there is still an underlying unease or emptiness persists. 

Even though I feel the need to be doing and achieving, I choose to learn how to just be.

Then there’s that racing mind to be calmed down:

Even though my head is full of thoughts whizzing around which never stop, I’m ready to let them go or at least slow down. 

Even though I can’t sleep because my mind won’t switch off, I deeply and completely accept myself.

I find that many people are so up in their heads they are quite disconnected from their bodies and even have a sense of experiencing their emotions in their head instead of their body.

Even though I’m disconnected from my body I choose to become more grounded and connected.

There are a couple of difficulties associated with living in your mind.  The first one is that you are either in the past or the future, neither of which actually exist, and not in the present moment which is all there ever is.  No wonder you don’t feel vibrant and alive – you’re not where life is!

Even though my mind is always in the past, regretting things that happened, I choose to live in the moment.

Even though my mind is so often in the past relieving traumatic events, I choose to release the past and recognise it no longer exists except in my mind. 

When your mind is in the future it tends to do what I call ‘catastrophising’.  I don’t think that’s actually a word but I know you know what I mean by it!  All those ‘what ifs’ that scare the living daylights out of you.  The thing is you can’t possibly deal with the imagined scenario because it hasn’t actually happened yet.  How stressful is that?!

Even though my mind is always creating anxiety for me by imagining the future, I choose to stay in the present moment with what is here now.

Even though I’m always creating worst case scenarios in my head, I choose to stay with what is real. 

The second difficulty is that you tend to actually believe your thoughts, some of which are at best highly un-useful and at worst totally untrue.   Your thoughts are just passing through and it really pays to examine whether they are really true. 

Even though I buy into my thoughts and react accordingly without ever examining them to see if they are true, I totally accept myself. 

Even though I think thoughts such as “I don’t deserve _______,” I recognise that this is truly misguided thinking.  

Yes, our mind is all over the place and usually not where we are.  Check out what happens when you are doing a routine job like washing the dishes – the odds are you will find your mind elsewhere, on a track far removed from washing up.  And what about when you drive somewhere, arrive at your destination and wonder how you got there because your mind was totally on other things!

Even though my body is doing one thing but my mind is elsewhere, I choose to bring my awareness back to the task I am doing. 

Even though I’m so seldom in the present moment with what I am doing, I keep bringing my awareness back to my body. 

The major difficulty we seem to create in our lives is that we don’t like what is happening, think it shouldn’t be happening and are actively resistant and reactionary to what is happening!  We do it on a small scale like being annoyed because it is raining when we wanted to have a picnic as well as going into a huge funk because we feel rejected by someone.  Some people are so reactive they kill other people – or themselves, because we are also resistant and reactive to ourselves (i.e. rejecting of our own selves).  That critical voice that never takes a break – “you should have done this, you shouldn’t have said that, you are such a loser.”  We have little sense of the power of acceptance in creating the change that we seek.

Even though I’m so reactive to situations and people, I choose to accept how they are no matter how difficult it seems. 

Even though I fight my life, I’m willing to totally accept it as it is.  (You might have to do a lot of tapping on this one!)

Even though I think that things will never change if I accept them, I’m ready to discover the power of acceptance.

When you can start to accept each moment for however it is and however you are in it, then peace emerges. 

It’s quite a journey to recognise that ultimately there are no problems except the ones created in your mind and you can be free of those when you live in the present moment, experiencing your eternal nature.   EFT is a powerful and effective tool that you can use to support yourself in this journey.    

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Margaret Munoz specialises in assisting people to live an extraordinary life and use their skills and talents to make a difference in the world.  Her exceptional skills and knowledge have been gained from 25 years of exploration, learning and study in the fields of human potential, personal and spiritual development, and wholistic health.  She shares these with people who want to live more consciously and experience peace, joy and fulfilment in their lives.

She is the author of ‘The Power of Tapping”, a comprehensive guide to using EFT to create a stress-free life, and ‘Create Prosperity’, a guided journey to overcoming financial worries. 

Margaret’s amazing ability to get to the crux of the matter, her finely honed intuition and warm, insightful nature make her a powerful catalyst for change, and her clients appreciate the tangible results.

Website: www.tangibleresults.com.au  Email: margaret@tangibleresults.com.au Phone: 612 9713 1956

I am taking an on-line course by one of the contributors to The Secret, Bill Harris of Centerpointe.  I highly recommend his three online courses.  They really make you think about how you look at life, your values, and how you can achieve everything you want to achieve. It’s recorded so I can listen when I have time.  I have to say I’ve taken probably close to a year off of it, to become a Certified Energy Coach and to launch my businesses of a healing practice and a law practice.  But it felt like time to get back to it, so I did.

One aspect of the lesson I listened to this week dealt with shame.  One of the statements that really caught my attention was something like:  Doing personal development over underlying feelings of shame is like building a house on a foundation of sand.  This struck me as profound.  Is this why some people (I know of several) go from program to program, spending tons of money, hoping to find whatever it is they need to start feeling better?  But it never happens!  Is their shame sabotaging everything they are trying to accomplish?

Bill Harris says the problem with shame is that it can be buried so deeply that we are unaware that it is even there-because we are so ashamed, we don’t want to face it.  We don’t realize we even feel ashamed, and so we can’t process the emotion and let it go. 

Some people hide their shame behind anger, feelings of never being good enough, feeling undeserving of love or money (because they are such a bad person), or other ways like overeating or other addictions (drugs, drinking, smoking, etc.).

Most, if not all of us were shamed as children.  I’d say some of our parents did it intentionally, others did it without really meaning to, but they still did it.  Haven’t you ever yelled at or scolded your child and she seemed to shrink in on herself?  Bet she was feeling ashamed of herself.  Did she internalize that feeling at that time?  Maybe.  Lots of the emotional garbage we carry with us is a result of things that happened when we were wounded as small children.  That child inside of you can be healed with energy healing.

What are you ashamed of?  How do you think those feelings of shame (the ones you know of, or those that are buried) are affecting other aspects of your life?  Because you can be assured that they are.  Any disruption in your energy field (in this case caused by repressed shame) affects all aspects of your life.  So, think about it, journal about it, do some tapping about it (see my website for the points to tap), and call me if you can’t seem to find it, or can’t seem to process it.

Go start releasing that shame, and let me know how it is going!