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Procrastination and Laughter

[Posted March 14th, 2012] by KimRuchAlegant

Say what? What do procrastination and laughter have to do with each other? Well, I’m inviting you to notice the next time you are procrastinating, and laugh at yourself! That’s how. Of course, since I am a tapping and energy work person, I’ll give you some of that too. But when I am leading a laughter yoga session, sometimes I have people laugh at their aches and pains, do angry or frustration laughter, laugh at a bill that comes in the mail, or simply laugh at themselves. So, if we can laugh at those things, why not laugh at procrastination?

Laughter changes the energy of any situation, even if it is “fake” laughter from doing laughter exercises. Laughter yoga is “fake it ‘til you make it” or just keep faking it if you don’t. Your body can’t tell the difference, and you feel better afterwards due to all those endorphins and serotonin etc. So, next time you catch yourself procrastinating, take a moment (or ten) and laugh! (for more on laughter yoga, click here)

So why do people procrastinate? Oh so many reasons. Oh so many issues we could tap on. But I know when the weather is gorgeous outside like it is here in Philadelphia, sometimes you just don’t feel like working. You feel like enjoying the beautiful weather outside, even if our winter wasn’t very harsh this year. (Amen for that! Sorry Europe.)

If it’s the weather that’s making you not want to work, can you give yourself a few hours to get outside and enjoy the weather? Hey, as long as you’re not blowing any deadlines or forgetting to pick up the kids, is there any harm in taking a few hours to smell the daffodils? I think not. We are here on this planet to enjoy life. Make sure you are taking the time to do it. I don’t consider this type of procrastination a problem, unless it is happening every day.

However, there is procrastination that is sabotage, and that kind of procrastination is better nipped in the bud. Procrastination from sabotage is not starting a project (or finishing it) because of fear of failure, fear of success, fear of putting yourself out there, fear of getting out of your comfort zone…I could go on.

It’s best if you can identify WHY you are sabotaging. This is where your friendly neighborhood coach comes in. (Shameless self-promotion here) Call me if you know you are sabotaging but don’t know why, or can’t fix it yourself! Hey-professional athletes use coaches for their entire careers. Why shouldn’t you? Moving on…

Let’s do some general tapping on procrastination (due to sabotage, not nice weather). You will be better off personalizing it for you, or calling me so we can do it together. But this will get you started. (f you don’t know how to tap, click here)

Karate Chop: Even though I am procrastinating AGAIN, I deeply and completely accept myself. Even though I just can’t seem to get stated, I accept who I am and how I feel. Even though I can’t see how to fix this, I choose to make changes starting today.

Eyebrow: I just can’t get started (or I can’t get it finished)
Side of the Eye: I’m so frustrated with myself
Under the Eye: What is wrong with me?
Under Nose: I don’t want to get it done, apparently
Chin: But I really do want to
Collarbone: I keep sabotaging myself
Under Arm: What if I could stop doing this to myself?
Top of Head: I am ready to move on

Take a deep breath. Check in. How are you doing? Are you feeling better or worse now? Nothing at all? Not specific enough. Can you do some more specific tapping? If you are feeling some relief, move on to the next sequences. If you still need more work, you should tap more on YOUR particular issues before moving on.

Eyebrow: I am ready to stop procrastinating
Side of the Eye: I do want to finish that project
Under the Eye: I will feel so good when it is finished
Under Nose: I will be able to move on to bigger and better things when it is finished
Chin: I love finishing my projects
Collarbone: I can feel the celebration already
Under Arm: I am finished!
Top of Head: After I celebrate, I can think about my next great thing!

Take another deep breath. Are you ready to get on that task and complete it? Or, at least take the next step. What is the saying-the journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step, or something like that. Take the first step towards completion. It will make the next step that much easier. Use laughing and tapping liberally as needed. Take time to relax and dream/meditate/pretend about completing the task. Call if you need me.


Can you relate to my story?

[Posted February 21st, 2012] by KimRuchAlegant

I was moderately successful in life. I graduated from college, got a job, got married, went to law school, had a kid, got a job. I got mediocre grades, mediocre jobs. I went to work, did my job, kept the stiff upper lip. I’d come home and take my anger out on my family. At home, I could safely get mad, and I did. I’d get mad and stay mad.

Eventually I realized that my anger stemmed from feeling unworthy, not loved, not wanted, out of control. I was slightly afraid to fly, which I realized was related to my control issues. Fast forward a few years (doing EFT, intuitive healing and other modalities). Now, I actually have moments of happiness in my life! I never remember feeling happy before. I’m still on the path, but…

I’ve learned that I’m in control of my life, and I get to choose what I do and how I feel.

I’d love to hear your healing journey. Will you share it with me? Please sign up for my newsletter, and let’s start a dialog. If you haven’t begun your journey yet, or you need help along the way, I can help you to release those thoughts and beliefs that are making your life hard.

Peace, Kim Ruch-Alegant
Philadelphia Life Coach

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Intention and Resistance

[Posted May 3rd, 2011] by KimRuchAlegant

I’m listening to Dr. Wayne Dyer’s The Power of Intention right now.  I have the CD’s, so I’m listening in 10 to 20 minute increments as I go about my errands and drive to and from work.  I love so much of what he is saying.

One thing I’m learning is that many teachers like Dr. Dyer, Bob Doyle, Abraham Hicks, David Morelli, and so many others (even biblical teachings) are all using different language to say the same thing.

They are all saying that inside each of us is the power to create our world.  Whether you call that something your soul, energy, essence, God, power, the matrix, the field of intention, love, source, universe, even the mind—it’s all the same.  We each create our reality with our thoughts, and our thoughts create what we perceive around us.  And it’s the “something” within us that does it.

It’s taken me several years to really wrap my head around this, so I won’t be upset if you disagree with me.  But even the Bible says that God is love, the kingdom of heaven is within you, and God is everywhere.  If this is true, then heaven is inside us just waiting to be let out, and we are the love which makes it all possible.

All of the law of attraction experts teach that ‘our thoughts create our reality’, and ‘what we focus on expands’.  Dr. Dyer’s way of discussing the issue is to say that what when we focus on what is “missing” in our lives, we get more of what’s missing!  If we focus on money being missing, we get more of money being missing.  If we focus on what’s missing in our relationships, we get more of that.  If we focus on what’s missing in our children (ie what they do that we think is “wrong”), we get more of that. Or, if you focus on “it’s always been this way”, we get more of that.

What if, instead, we focused on what we LOVE?  Then we would get MORE OF THAT!

Abraham says lots of people have “what-is-it is,” meaning we can’t see beyond the current situation.  But we can train ourselves to look at and focus on what we DO want, instead of what we have right now.  Don’t love your job?  What do you want?  Don’t like your bank account?  What do you want?  Don’t like your car?  What do you want?

If we turn our attention and intention to what we do want, the universe (or whatever you want to call it) will begin to make it happen.  Focusing on our intent, what we want, and releasing the resistance to it, are key.  You can change your focus to what you want, but if you are resisting it, you still won’t get it. 

This all sounds hard, doesn’t it?

It doesn’t have to be.  There are many techniques for releasing resistance, like meditation,  yoga, EFT/tapping, the POP technique (a new one I have learned) and many, many others.  You simply need to find your ‘resistance releaser’ of choice, and use it often.

I’m working on this myself, but I’m getting closer and closer to having everything that I want.  I can feel it.  Are you ready to start (or continue on) your journey to what you want?

Here are some tapping sequences to help you focus on Intention:

Karate Chop: Even though it’s hard to keep my focus on what I want, instead of what I have, I intend to get better at it every day.  Even though I don’t know how to phrase my intentions, I accept who I am and how I feel today.  Even though it’s all hard, I accept myself and I choose to change my life starting right now.

Eyebrow: I don’t know how to do intentions
Side of the Eye: I’ve done intentions but they haven’t worked
Under the Eye: I have too much resistance
Under Nose:  I want my intentions to work
Chin: I can change my life with my intentions
Collarbone: No I can’t, it’s too hard
Under Arm: Saying it’s too hard is “what-is-itis”
Top of Head:  What if I could begin to change my life?

Karate Chop: I wonder if setting intentions could change my life?
Eyebrow: It probably couldn’t hurt!
Side of the Eye: I intend to start setting intentions today!
Under the Eye: My intentions are what I WANT, and are stated in positive language
Under Nose:  I know my life will change if I do this consistently
Chin: I intend to release resistance to the life that I want, beginning right now
Collarbone: I intend to choose my life, not be a victim of my life.
Under Arm: What’s the first thing I want to intend?
Top of Head:  I intend _____________________________

Take a deep breath.  Repeat often, and tap on your intentions every day.  Tap on your resistance to what you want each and every time you feel it.  If you do this consistently, you will notice your life changing around you.

Every other article I have written has tapping sequences for different types of resistance.  They’re on my blog.  TheGuiltyMom.com has all the tapping sequences you could want to release the resistance of guilt.  To get more tapping sequences, just do an internet search of “eft tapping” and “whatever your issue” is, and I’m sure someone has written something about it.  Whatever “it” is.  Or, come to me and we’ll personalize tapping just for you.  I intend for my readers to find this information life changing!  Be well.


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