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BE YOUR AUTHENTIC SELF

[Posted May 13th, 2010] by KimRuchAlegant

Bob Doyle said this at a weekend conference I attended.  What does it mean to you when you think about being your authentic self?  Sometimes people are living a life that someone told them they should be living-whether it be a spouse or a parent.  What role have you taken on because someone told you that you should, or because it was “expected” of you?

Sometimes our roles are what we expect of ourselves.  Right now, I expect myself to be a lawyer.  But I also want to be an energy healer.  Before the Turning Passion Into Profit weekend, I had convinced myself that I could not be both.  But now I know that I can build BOTH a successful law practice and a successful energy healing and coaching practice.  I can do both, and I will do both-I am doing both!

I think what Bob Doyle was referring to when he save us the admonition to “Be Your Authentic Self” was that you have to be who you need to be.  You have to do what you want to do.  If you are living the life someone else wanted for you or expected you to live, you are not going to be successful.

You may be outwardly successful, making money and living up to society’s expectations.  But what are you feeling inside?  Are you dying inside?   Do you feel like if you have to live this life for one more day you are going to scream?  All the money in the world would not make someone who feels like this feel successful on the inside, where it really matters.

Bob Doyle talks about how everything that is in your life now is a result of the energy vibrations you have put out in the past.  Your current life is in vibrational harmony with how you were vibrating previously.  To change your life you need to change your vibration.

Thoughts and feelings are your vibrations.  Your current emotionally charged thoughts are creating your future.  Are you creating the future that you want?  If not, why not?  I have done A LOT of EFT over the years, and I’m really starting to notice the changes it has made in my life.  Begin tapping on all the reasons why you are not living the life you really want to have, and things will begin to change for you.

Tapping changes your vibration, which changes your future.  Who doesn’t want to do that?

by Kim Ruch-Alegant, Certified Energy Coach for moms who feel guilty and overwhelmed lawyers


Guest Author: I Love It When…

[Posted April 14th, 2010] by KimRuchAlegant

Our guest author is Carol Look, EFT Master.  Her website is www.attractingabundance.com and she has lots of great resources.  I have attended a couple of her retreats and they are always life changing.

I Love It When…

By Carol Look

**********************

I often feel overwhelmed, get ahead of myself, and frequently can’t decide what to do first… so I definitely need to follow the suggestion to keep it simple. What I know is that the simplest way to feel better, be more efficient, and attract my desires quickly is to raise my vibration.

After more than a decade of research and practice, one of the quickest and most enjoyable ways I have found to raise my vibration is by writing out my "Love List."  What’s a Love List?  A simple list of 10-20 things you love about your life, your day, your family, or your work. (I told you this would be simple…)  It sounds something like this:

I love it when I feel deeply rested in the morning.
I love having enough time to relax before work.
I love it when the sun shines on the plants in my office.
I love it when my favorite song comes on the radio.
I love it when I get the laundry done.
I love going out to lunch in the middle of the week.
I love it when people tell me how my newsletter helped them.

How much simpler could it be?

So if this method of raising our vibration is so simple,
AND it works… why don’t we do it???

It’s curious, isn’t it?  Writing a Love List takes a few minutes at most, feels good, and yields wonderful results, and yet many people find themselves skipping this exercise.  From personal and professional experience, I have found that we don’t do what we need to do when we are not congruent with (aligned with) the success we keep telling ourselves and others that we want.  What keeps us from being congruent?  Limiting beliefs.

Limiting Beliefs sound like this:

(1) I don’t have what it takes to succeed
(2) I don’t deserve to succeed
(3) I don’t believe I can get/feel better
(4) I’m not worthy of success
(5) It’s not safe to succeed

Do some of these beliefs sound familiar to you?  When any of these above limiting beliefs are floating around in either your conscious or unconscious mind, then it is almost guaranteed that you will sabotage your success.  So even though the task of writing a list titled "Ten things I love about my life" is incredibly simple, if you have limiting beliefs about being successful, these beliefs will sabotage you and you won’t take the time to write your Love List.  So how do we collapse these limiting beliefs so we can do what we need to do?  EFT(meridian tapping) is the best tool I’ve found to release limiting beliefs.

The purpose of collapsing the limiting beliefs is to release the sabotage behavior.  When there are no more reasons to sabotage, you will do all the simple as well as more complex exercises to raise your vibration.

Take any of the very simple vibration raising exercises I have suggested in the past 140 newsletters or exercises from other readings you have studied and ask yourself why you don’t do them every day. (The Gratitude Walk, the Appreciation List, the Love List, the "Take Five" game, the Thank You Universe tapping etc)  Typical answers are:

(1) I don’t have time…
(2) I’m not sure how effective it is.
(3) I’m not feeling inspired to do it.
(4) I don’t know why I didn’t do it.
(5) I forgot…

If you’ve ever used any of these excuses (I know I certainly have) then you can be sure you have some limiting beliefs that may be sabotaging you. If you were aligned with (congruent with) reaching success in any part of your life, you would never "forget" to raise your vibration!  If you were congruent with attracting abundance, you would never question the effectiveness of vibration games that have worked for decades for thousands of other people.

When you clear your sabotage habits,
you will do what you need to do to feel
better and attract abundance right now!

Are you aware of how aligned you truly are with success? Use the tapping to release your limiting beliefs and watch how easy it feels to complete your abundance games that raise your vibration.

You can raise your vibration as soon as your next decision to write your Love List!

As you’ve heard from me and other Law of Attraction teachers before — it’s all energy!  A Love List will create more things in your life to love… and it feels SO good!

So, if you find yourself "forgetting" to write your Love List, neglecting your appreciation walk, not finding the time to focus on what feels good, it’s a clear indication that you need to do some EFT/Meridian Tapping to release the beliefs that are causing the sabotage.

Remember, the Law of Attraction sends you situations that have the same energy of the vibration you are exuding… so pay attention to what you love in your life right now!

Below you will find EFT setup phrases to help you release resistance to doing these simple activities to raise your vibration.

When you change your vibration,
you will change your life.

1. EFT SETUP PHRASES:

The EFT SETUP Phrases for this topic are as follows:

While tapping the karate chop spot on either hand, repeat these phrases out loud, (or change the words to fit your exact situation).

"Even though I don’t take the time to write my Love Lists, I choose to accept myself anyway."
"Even though I’m reluctant to focus on what I love, I choose to love and accept myself anyway."

"Even though I don’t pay enough attention to what I love, I accept myself and how I feel."

I have indicated where to tap while saying each of the phrases below. You may repeat the positive round more than once if you wish. (Those of you who are new to EFT may view a chart of the spots on my web site under the EFT pages.)

***Now for the phrases that focus on the problem***

Eyebrow: "I’m reluctant to focus on what I love."
Side of Eye: "I’d rather focus on what I want."
Under Eye: "I need to remember all that I love."
Nose: "But what’s the point of this?"
Chin: "I know what I love, why write about it?"
Collarbone: "This better get me my manifestations…"
Under Arm: "Maybe I need to relax about this."
Head: "What if I could try to write my love list every day…"

***Now for the positive focus on the solution***

Eyebrow: "I want to feel inspired to write my love list every day."
Side of Eye: "I choose to release my resistance."
Under Eye: "I know now why it’s so important."
Nose: "I intend to write my love list every day."
Chin: "I love the energy of love."
Collarbone: "My intention is to write my list every day."
Under Arm: "I love knowing these lists work so well."
Head: "I love knowing I can raise my vibration with my love list!"

Access more positive vibrations with the Law of Attraction by repeating the following phrases (while tapping or not):

Thank You, Universe for allowing me to notice what I love in my life.
Thank You, Universe for reminding me that there is so much love in my life!
Thank You, Universe for showing me how simple it is to focus on what I love.

Keep tapping, and enjoy using the Law of Attraction to bring more of what you want into your life!

By EFT Master Carol Look


Turning Passion Into Profit

[Posted March 15th, 2010] by KimRuchAlegant

Last week I attended a three day seminar titled “Turning Your Passion Into Profit”.  It was all about effectively using the law of attraction to get what you want, by using energy healing tools to release your resistance to having what you want. These group retreats are very powerful, and I highly recommend that when one speaks to you, you sign up and attend.  The moment I saw the description for this weekend I knew I was going to go.  I have been feeling a bit stuck in the slow growth of my law firm, and I knew this retreat would help me blow away those barriers. 

 

I think I got way more than I bargained for.

 

I came home with my chakras wide open, and ready to take on the world!

 

Part of the reason I got so much out of the weekend was because I sent an intention before I went that it was going to be a life changing experience for me.  I had been to two weekend EFT seminars before.  I got a lot out of them, but was not ready to take the big leaps forward.  This time I was ready.

 

One thing that is so powerful about participating in a group is that you access things that maybe working by yourself would not be ready to come up yet.  It is not always fun, but facing our inner demons (or resistance or limiting beliefs or whatever you want to call them) rarely is.

 

For instance, I realized through someone else’s processing that I was born with some kind of imprint that “I can’t have what I want”.  I could write a whole book with examples from my entire life to date of how I ALMOST get what I want, but usually fall short in some way.  Or if I get what I want, I figure out a way to mess it up.  This has been my own personal self sabotage.  Well, I’ve been using various energy techniques on this since I discovered it, and I think I am DONE with that limiting belief!

 

Now I’d like to share with you some of the powerful take aways I got from the weekend.  Bob Doyle, one of the thought leaders in the Law of Attraction field (he appeared in the movie The Secret), was one of the leaders of the weekend.  He gave an impromptu 30 minute talk one of the days that was incredibly powerful for me.  I jotted down what I thought were the most important words of wisdom that he shared.  In later blog entries I will share what I remember of his explanation and my interpretation of it.

 

Bob Doyle said:

Be Your Authentic Self

Learn How to Play (and by your own rules)

Reconnect to Your Sense of Passion

 

So, ponder what those phrases mean to you, and I will write about what they mean to me.  Let’s start a conversation.


Hurry Up Universe!

[Posted October 28th, 2009] by admin

This article appeared in Carol Look’s Attracting Abundance Newsletter on October 27, 2009.   Click here for her website, and to get her great newsletter.
 
When several clients in the same week talked to me about being impatient with the Universe, I thought it was time to write about this topic again in my newsletter!
 
Do you feel impatient with the Universe?

Do you think you’ve done everything right, and you still haven’t attracted what you want?

Have you been using the Law of Attraction but think it isn’t working for you?

Are you getting tired of "waiting" for your abundance?
 
These are of course all "tappable issues" with Meridian Tapping and EFT… but in the meantime, let’s talk about the very common feeling of impatience.
 
I am perhaps the most impatient person I know… So I know the pros and cons of this emotion.  What I discovered is that while impatience can be a "normal" even "typical" response when something isn’t showing up for you, impatience also slows down the attraction process.  Remember, the Universe responds to every emotion you communicate, which means it is responding to your vibration.  And if you are emitting impatience, the Universe hears this feeling, and thinks you want it to send you more reasons to feel impatient… the opposite of what you want!
 
Read the sentences below and rate them on the 0-10 point intensity scale to see which ones really bother you or have a "charge."
 
(1) I feel so impatient with the Universe…
(2) I’ve done everything right, and I still don’t have what I want.
(3) I want what I want and I want it right now!
(4) The Universe should have sent my abundance to me already.
 
As I wrote earlier, all of these above feelings are great targets for Meridian Tapping and EFT.  Once you release this feeling and attitude that the Universe should hurry up and deliver what you want, you will relax, feel open and be able to receive what you want rather than block it.  The clearing process starts with believing, knowing and expecting your abundance to show up for you.
 
If you BELIEVED your abundance was on its way,
wouldn’t you relax and feel more patient?
 
If you KNEW your abundance was on its way,
wouldn’t you start expecting it to come?
 
If you EXPECTED your abundance to show up, wouldn’t you start feeling patient, even eager for it to manifest?
 
Law of Attraction teachers say that like attracts like… so when you feel relaxed and hopeful, and eager and expecting your abundance to show up, it will help you attract more vibrational resonance with attracting success in your life.
 
Remember, the Universe responds to your vibration, so practice expecting your abundance to show up!
 
The EFT setup phrases below will help you stop blocking your abundance, raise your vibration and open the door to allow what you want to roll into your life.
 
 
1. EFT SETUP PHRASES:

The EFT SETUP Phrases for this topic are as follows:

While tapping the karate chop spot on either hand, repeat these phrases out loud, (or change the words to fit your exact situation).

"Even though I feel impatient because my abundance isn’t here yet, I choose to appreciate who I am and how I feel."

"Even though I’ve done everything right, but my abundance still hasn’t shown up, I accept who I am and how I feel."
 
"Even though I feel so impatient and I think the Universe should hurry up, I deeply and completely accept how I feel."
 
I have indicated where to tap while saying each of the phrases below. You may repeat the positive round more than once if you wish. (Those of you who are new to EFT may view a chart of the spots on my web site under the EFT pages.)
 
 
**Now for the phrases that focus on the problem***
 
 
Eyebrow: "I feel so impatient right now."
Side of Eye: "My abundance hasn’t shown up yet."
Under Eye: "I feel so impatient with the Universe."
Nose: "I want what I want right now."
Chin: "I want the success and abundance I have asked for."
Collarbone: "I don’t understand why it hasn’t shown up yet."
Under Arm: "I want my success and abundance now."
Head: "I feel so impatient that I don’t have what I want."
 
 
***Now for the positive focus on the solution***
 
 
Eyebrow: "What if I could start to expect my abundance now?"
Side of Eye: "What if I could start to feel patient and knowing?"
Under Eye: "I want to start feeling patient now."
Nose: "I want to enjoy knowing that my abundance is on its way…"
Chin: "I choose to feel patient with the Universe now."
Collarbone: "I choose to feel so certain my abundance is coming."
Under Arm: "I choose to know my abundance is on its way!"
Head: "I love feeling excited that my abundance is on its way."
 
Keep tapping, and enjoy using the Law of Attraction to bring more of what you want into your life!

Carol Look


Are You Feeling Inspired?

[Posted October 6th, 2009] by KimRuchAlegant

What inspires you?  Inspiration is different for everyone.  You may feel inspired when you see a beautiful rose, hear a well written sermon, pray, climb a mountain, or watch your child sleep.  (or a million other things)  It is important to make time in your life for that which inspires you.  When you get your fix of inspiration, you can go back to your regular life and be the best you can be. 

I go to a Unitarian Universalist (UU) Fellowship, and one of the things I love best about it is that you never know what you are going to learn on a Sunday morning.  This past Sunday the sermon was given by a friend of mine.  We are a lay-lead congregation, which means that half of the Sundays the service is run by someone other than the minister.  Now, my friend happens to be a retired Baptist minister, turned UU.  He believes his spirituality is still developing, and he spoke about his perspective as a Christian Unitarian Universalist.

One of the things he said which struck me was when he was talking about volunteering, especially for the Fellowship (our “church”, which we don’t call a church in deference to the people who are not comfortable with the term).  He said that William Ellory Channing wrote about how if your volunteer activities drain your energy instead of giving you more energy, then you are doing them for the wrong reasons.  Hmm.  I think this ties in with inspiration.  If you are doing activities that you are inspired to do, you will get more energy from them.  If you are doing something out of obligation, it will drain your energy. 

So I suppose the question is, how do we take inspired action?  We all have things we “have” to do, like do the dishes or fold the laundry or clean the bathroom or pick up doggy doo.  It can be hard to feel inspired when doing such tasks, right?  So what can we do while doing the mundane if not icky tasks to maintain our inspiration? 

Buddists would say to be mindful, be fully present in the moment with what you are doing.  Don’t worry about the fight you had with your spouse or the grocery shopping you are going to do next.  Being present may not leave you feeling inspired, but you should feel peaceful.  If we pick up the doggy doo while having a negative conversation in our heads, we are going to feel very negative about the experience.  Could you choose to notice the lovely trees or flowers or grass or whatever is lovely in the vicinity?  Could you choose to think of someone you love and send them happy thoughts while you do the dirty work? 

There are stories of people who lived in the Nazi Concentration Camps in Germany who did not let the experience affect their happiness.  I don’t think I could live and maybe die in those conditions without it affecting my outlook on life.  What kind of person would you have to be, to feel inspired in such a situation?  That is the kind of person I aspire to be.

Maybe picking up doggy doo isn’t so bad.


Another Way To Tap Away Stress

[Posted September 15th, 2009] by KimRuchAlegant

A couple of months ago, I wrote about a method of stress relief where you make a list of things that are stressing you right now, and you begin to tap on them. Hopefully the tapping begins to reveal events in your past that still have an emotional charge (which means they are still affecting you today), and when you tap on that past event, you release the charge.  The event becomes a non-issue.

See, the thing is, all events are really neutral.  It is YOU who decides whether an event is positive or negative, by your interpretation and your reaction to it.  Or it is the people around us, and we tend to go along with how they feel.  For instance, getting fired from a job may be a horrid thing to one person, but to another it may be a blessing.  The same with a divorce. 

The important thing to remember is that it is YOU who controls your response to a situation.  You can decide to become angry and harbor resentment, or you can decide to recognize that the person who made you so mad was only doing the best that they could, and did not hurt you on purpose.

I know, it is easy to sit here with my computer and write such things.  But once you start to apply it to your life, it is very freeing.  Everything in life is about choice.  Some people are natural optimists, or natural pessimists (is the glass half full or half empty?)  BUT, just because you tend to be one or the other, does not mean that the pessimist cannot turn over a new leaf and begin to make a conscious effort to see things in a more positive light.  I know, because I am a natural born pessimist.  But over the last few years I have begun to be more positive about things.  Of course, in times of stress it is easy to revert to my old ways.  That is why it is important to have constant reminders that it is I who choose my reactions to things.  It is I who chooses whether the glass is half full or half empty.

A guy who does a lot of thinking about being positive (or should I say staying positive) is Jon Gordon.  I saw him speak at the eWomenNetwork conference a few years ago, and bought what I think was his first book called The Energy Addict.  Jon Gordon has written several books about how to be positive (i.e. keep you energy spiraling up instead of down), how to stay positive, and how to hang around with positive people, and how all of this will affect your life for the better.  In fact, I think most, if not all, of the self-help gurus write and talk about how your mindset affects your life. 

Zig Ziglar and even Jeffrey Gittomer (who wrote awesome sales training books) talk about how it is your attitude, or your thoughts, mindset, reactions (whatever you want to call it) which really affect your life and outcomes in your life.  The more positive things you can see in your mind, the more positive things will actually happen outside of your mind.  I don’t mean hallucinating.  I mean interpreting events in a positive way.  This also leads to being able to see the next step.  Like, where to go from here.

So what does tapping (EFT) have to do with any of this?  When you find yourself stuck in focusing on the glass being half empty, you can use tapping to change your energy and change your thoughts about what is going, and so reduce your stress levels (and get that energy spiraling back up).  So, you can tap on “even though I am feeling negative right now, I choose to turn it around and begin to feel positive”, “I choose to see the glass half full”, “even though I can’t see what is good about this situation, I choose to know that soon I will recognize the positive” and other similar phrases.  Or, I choose to start releasing my anger now.

The trick really is remembering to use the tools you have in your toolbox (tapping and others) to make yourself feel better.  The self-help gurus all say to write things on post-its and hang it on your bathroom mirror.  Jeffrey Gittomer even has a system where when something is a goal, it goes on the bathroom mirror.  Once the goal has been achieved, the post-it goes on your bedroom mirror, to remind you of what you have accomplished, and help you feel good.  To help yourself remember to tap, you could always do the post-it method, but hang them where you think you’ll have the opportunity to tap.  If you can tap while you’re on the phone, hang one there.  If you can tap while you are driving, put a post-it in the car.

How are you going to remind yourself to use your positive attitude tools?  Do it now!


The End Of All Problems

[Posted July 21st, 2009] by KimRuchAlegant

We have a guest author this month.  This version of the article is a longer one than is in the email newsletter.  The italics are the tapping sequences. 

By Margaret Munoz – EFT Practitioner

The end of all problems.

How could that be possible?

And yet it is, when we’re able to access ‘the most important dimension of human existence – the sacred, the stillness, the formless, the divine’. 

If you’re new to EFT you could be grateful to discover that EFT fixes your headache in three minutes, or that you’re now free of the anxiety caused by a past trauma.  This is indeed wonderful, but what is even more wonderful is that EFT can also be used at the most profound level to help you bring about a shift in consciousness so that you experience peace, joy and fulfilment.

Humanity is now taking a quantum leap forward in its evolutionary development and one of the leading teachers in this development is Eckharte Tolle, the author of “The Power of Now” and “The New Earth”.  Following his own experience of transformation he is a particularly clear teacher of ancient wisdoms.  We learn from these teachings that the ultimate freedom is to live the realisation that all problems are created in the mind and that there are no problems when you access the eternal present. 

The freedom bit sounds great, so does peace, joy and fulfilment but how on earth do you get to feel like that when you’re busy, stressed to the hilt, dashing around with ‘to do’ lists in your head, trying to pay the rent or mortgage, look after the kids, deal with difficult relationships, the technology revolution, information overload, as well as battle fears, anxieties and addictions.  Let’s not even mention the incessant critical voice in your head.  Does it ever stop?

It’s difficult to know where to begin but a good place would be to make a decision to create some space for yourself and at the same time make a commitment to support yourself by consistently tapping on whatever obstacles are in your path.  Use your preferred method of tapping and let the suggestions I give you trigger off your own tapping sequences. 

First of all, make that decision!

Even though I’m so busy and stressed, and I don’t see any way out of it, I choose to find space and time for myself.

Even though I’m so busy with _______ (work deadlines/business/family/travelling/social commitments etc.) that I don’t have time for myself, I deeply and completely accept myself in this moment.

It’s really pretty difficult to find any stillness when you’re always on the move:

Even though I always seem to be rushing, I choose to STOP, and create space for myself.

After all, what are you achieving by all this doing?  That’s a question a great many apparently successful people ask themselves.  There can be great wealth or great achievement but despite this there is still an underlying unease or emptiness persists. 

Even though I feel the need to be doing and achieving, I choose to learn how to just be.

Then there’s that racing mind to be calmed down:

Even though my head is full of thoughts whizzing around which never stop, I’m ready to let them go or at least slow down. 

Even though I can’t sleep because my mind won’t switch off, I deeply and completely accept myself.

I find that many people are so up in their heads they are quite disconnected from their bodies and even have a sense of experiencing their emotions in their head instead of their body.

Even though I’m disconnected from my body I choose to become more grounded and connected.

There are a couple of difficulties associated with living in your mind.  The first one is that you are either in the past or the future, neither of which actually exist, and not in the present moment which is all there ever is.  No wonder you don’t feel vibrant and alive – you’re not where life is!

Even though my mind is always in the past, regretting things that happened, I choose to live in the moment.

Even though my mind is so often in the past relieving traumatic events, I choose to release the past and recognise it no longer exists except in my mind. 

When your mind is in the future it tends to do what I call ‘catastrophising’.  I don’t think that’s actually a word but I know you know what I mean by it!  All those ‘what ifs’ that scare the living daylights out of you.  The thing is you can’t possibly deal with the imagined scenario because it hasn’t actually happened yet.  How stressful is that?!

Even though my mind is always creating anxiety for me by imagining the future, I choose to stay in the present moment with what is here now.

Even though I’m always creating worst case scenarios in my head, I choose to stay with what is real. 

The second difficulty is that you tend to actually believe your thoughts, some of which are at best highly un-useful and at worst totally untrue.   Your thoughts are just passing through and it really pays to examine whether they are really true. 

Even though I buy into my thoughts and react accordingly without ever examining them to see if they are true, I totally accept myself. 

Even though I think thoughts such as “I don’t deserve _______,” I recognise that this is truly misguided thinking.  

Yes, our mind is all over the place and usually not where we are.  Check out what happens when you are doing a routine job like washing the dishes – the odds are you will find your mind elsewhere, on a track far removed from washing up.  And what about when you drive somewhere, arrive at your destination and wonder how you got there because your mind was totally on other things!

Even though my body is doing one thing but my mind is elsewhere, I choose to bring my awareness back to the task I am doing. 

Even though I’m so seldom in the present moment with what I am doing, I keep bringing my awareness back to my body. 

The major difficulty we seem to create in our lives is that we don’t like what is happening, think it shouldn’t be happening and are actively resistant and reactionary to what is happening!  We do it on a small scale like being annoyed because it is raining when we wanted to have a picnic as well as going into a huge funk because we feel rejected by someone.  Some people are so reactive they kill other people – or themselves, because we are also resistant and reactive to ourselves (i.e. rejecting of our own selves).  That critical voice that never takes a break – “you should have done this, you shouldn’t have said that, you are such a loser.”  We have little sense of the power of acceptance in creating the change that we seek.

Even though I’m so reactive to situations and people, I choose to accept how they are no matter how difficult it seems. 

Even though I fight my life, I’m willing to totally accept it as it is.  (You might have to do a lot of tapping on this one!)

Even though I think that things will never change if I accept them, I’m ready to discover the power of acceptance.

When you can start to accept each moment for however it is and however you are in it, then peace emerges. 

It’s quite a journey to recognise that ultimately there are no problems except the ones created in your mind and you can be free of those when you live in the present moment, experiencing your eternal nature.   EFT is a powerful and effective tool that you can use to support yourself in this journey.    

***********

Margaret Munoz specialises in assisting people to live an extraordinary life and use their skills and talents to make a difference in the world.  Her exceptional skills and knowledge have been gained from 25 years of exploration, learning and study in the fields of human potential, personal and spiritual development, and wholistic health.  She shares these with people who want to live more consciously and experience peace, joy and fulfilment in their lives.

She is the author of ‘The Power of Tapping”, a comprehensive guide to using EFT to create a stress-free life, and ‘Create Prosperity’, a guided journey to overcoming financial worries. 

Margaret’s amazing ability to get to the crux of the matter, her finely honed intuition and warm, insightful nature make her a powerful catalyst for change, and her clients appreciate the tangible results.

Website: www.tangibleresults.com.au  Email: margaret@tangibleresults.com.au Phone: 612 9713 1956


Tapping Away Stress

[Posted May 28th, 2009] by KimRuchAlegant

Our inner critic.  Our negative self talk.   The vivid memory of a parent yelling at us, or   hitting us.  The movie which plays on the screen of our mind where our teacher embarrassed us in front of the whole class.  Do any of these sound familiar to you?  And I don’t mean because you read about them in a book sometime, but because these things live inside of you.  If you read those words and thought-yeah, I’ve got that-you have something which can be helped by energy coaching or healing.  The whole premise of coaching is that each of us is perfect the way we are (that brings up more issues for some people!).  But each of us also has had experiences which continue to have an impact on us today, even years after the actual incident happened.  If that impact was positive, like some important tidbit of advice that has served us well, it is great to keep enjoying the help or comfort the experience brought us.  But if an experience was painful, maybe some healing or a change of perspective could occur which would make a big difference in our lives. 

In my work with energy healing, I have worked with people who have pain in a particular part of their body.  When I ask them “If this pain had an emotional cause, what would it be?”  they usually have an immediate answer, but then spend the next few minutes telling me everything they have done to heal themselves from this emotional issue.  But as we continue to discuss the issue while tapping, it becomes obvious by their reaction, whether it be tears or anger, that the issue has not been healed, and there is more work to be done.

Well, you say, I don’t have any pain in my body, so I must not need energy healing.  So I ask you, do you ever suffer from headaches, depression, anxiety?  Ever feel totally stressed?   Ever just feel cranky and you really don’t know why?  If you don’t, you may be right that you don’t need energy healing!  Congratulations!  But if you do, there may be something buried inside you (or should I say stuck, or disrupting your energy?) which could benefit from healing.

So how can you figure out what it is you may want to heal? There are lots of different ways.  Let’s think about one of them now.  Start by tapping while you think about areas of your life which are causing you stress right now.  Start making a list.  EFT or tapping is a wonderful self-help technique that you can do all by yourself.  When issues are buried or stuck a practitioner is helpful, but the wounds that are close to the surface are easily treated on your own.

Back to the list.  As you look at the list, consider what areas of stress have been a recurrent theme in your life.  I don’t necessarily mean the same argument you have with your child or spouse, but over the long stretches of time in your life, what keeps happening over and over? (Of course, we’re talking bad stuff, not good stuff.  It’s great when good stuff keeps happening over and over!)

If the same type of thing which you don’t like has happened to you more than once, maybe some healing would help.  Do you constantly get in a relationship with the same type of person, and this person is toxic to you?  Do you constantly get fired from your jobs?  Do your friends always take advantage of you?  Start tapping on the most recent incident of whatever it is in your life that keeps being repeated.  While you are tapping, it is best to talk out loud about the incident, and particularly what your feelings are around the incident, and what it reminds you of.

Pay special attention to what it reminds you of.  Do you get back to that chastising parent or embarrassing teacher situation?  If so, continue tapping on that specific incident.  How did it look, how did you feel-say out loud as much detail as possible.  The more detail you can bring up here, the more likely you are to begin healing or releasing the incident.  It is this releasing that is going to change your life from here on out.  Once you release something you have been carrying around, it is gone.  It is no longer affecting you, and you should no longer attract that situation into your life.  You will be free to move on and attract different situations!  So, what are you waiting for?


Success and Happiness Now

[Posted May 28th, 2009] by KimRuchAlegant

By Steve Wells, EFT Down Under
www.eftdownunder.com

We have a guest author this month!  Steve Wells is a wonderful healer.  I hope you enjoy this article.

Success and Happiness Now by Steve Wells

The illusion of success is that it is always off in the distance, somewhere else, that place we’d rather be, anywhere but here. You don’t get to feel successful until you are successful, which is after you have done what you think you need to do. So most people feel bad in the present, it isn’t where they think they should be. So they dissociate from it, step away and criticise where they are, or daydream of another reality, anything but the one they have right now.

Do you think of success as some time way off into the future? Then you get to feel unhappy, even miserable, right now.

Do you believe that you don’t deserve to feel good right now, until you have met some criteria for success? Go directly to deep depression. Do not pass GO. Do not collect $200.

Try this: Simply notice the state you go into when you think of how successful you are right now. If you feel great, fantastic, you know that you already are successful. Go directly to GO. The place where you are right now.

If you feel negative when thinking of how successful you are right now, this can only be because you believe that something else is required in order for you to feel successful. Something you should have, something you should do (or even worse, something that others should do for you), something you should stop doing, or something you should be (which of course, you are not!).

And those beliefs are a prescription for more unhappiness… Unless you consider an alternative definition of success.

Success is not way off into the future. Success is available to you right now. As paradoxical and strange as it may seem, success begins with acceptance of where you are right now.

Barry Kaufman, who wrote Happiness is a Choice, says we believe we have to have reasons to feel happy and successful. So we decide for example that once we have achieved something then we will let ourselves feel happy. First success, then happiness.

So we set a goal for example to buy a new house…

Now according to the rules, we aren’t allowed to feel happy until we have achieved whatever it is that we should achieve, such as once we have moved into that house.

And here’s the worst of it: We believe we have to motivate ourselves to achieve our goals by using pain! So we make ourselves feel unhappy about our current housing situation in order to get ourselves do the things and achieve the things that will (eventually, presumably) make us happy and in the house of our dreams!

But it’s a trap. We are caught up in an endless spiral of misery if we swallow this BS (belief system) about success because when we achieve the thing we are supposed to achieve then we are supposed to set a new, higher goal and never be satisfied where we are because being satisfied with where you are and with what you have is considered deadly for ongoing achievement… So when we move into the house, then we need to furnish it with the right kind of furniture, or decorate it correctly, and make the garden just so…

So we get back on the pain treadmill in an attempt to make ourselves do and achieve some more, all the while motivating ourselves by saying that one day we will get to feel happy once we achieve this new, more challenging, goal, and once our house is perfect…

What’s the solution?

Strange as it may seem, the most powerful thing you can do to become happier and more successful is to accept where you are right now. Unhappiness exists only when we slip away from what is happening to judge what is happening…

As Kaufman states: "Unhappiness does not exist in the present moment! … Unhappiness exists only as a reflection or regret about the past or as an anticipation or worry toward the future. It does not exist right now, in this moment… if we can stay in this moment."

When you go away from this very moment to bring a fear or fantasy or memory into the moment, that becomes your present moment… You separate from what is really happening, you lose contact with the only truth you can really know, what is right here, right now.

Acceptance is not passive, as many people fear, since where you are right now is the starting place to where you will be. I read once that you can go anywhere in the world you want as long as you are willing to start from where you are (source unknown).

"The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change."
– Carl Rogers

But we are reluctant to be where we are; we want to be somewhere better. And when we get there, we’ll find somewhere better than that to pine for. All the while missing the bleeding obvious that we already are where we most need to be right now, and that everything we need is "hidden" right here in this very moment.

One of the great values of tapping is that it can be used to bring you fully into this moment, to release the emotional attachments to being someplace else, to quiet your mind, and to experience the peace and silence from which all creation begins.

"If I love the world as it is I am already changing it: a first fragment of the world has been changed, and that is in my own heart."
– Novelist Petru Dumitriu

You are where you most need to be right now, and everything you need to succeed is contained in this very moment. Don’t miss it.

What do you think? We would love to read your comments. You can make a comment on our blog or the EFT Down Under blog.


Are Feelings of Shame Affecting Your Entire Life, and You Don’t Even Realize It?

[Posted April 8th, 2009] by KimRuchAlegant

I am taking an on-line course by one of the contributors to The Secret, Bill Harris of Centerpointe.  I highly recommend his three online courses.  They really make you think about how you look at life, your values, and how you can achieve everything you want to achieve. It’s recorded so I can listen when I have time.  I have to say I’ve taken probably close to a year off of it, to become a Certified Energy Coach and to launch my businesses of a healing practice and a law practice.  But it felt like time to get back to it, so I did.

One aspect of the lesson I listened to this week dealt with shame.  One of the statements that really caught my attention was something like:  Doing personal development over underlying feelings of shame is like building a house on a foundation of sand.  This struck me as profound.  Is this why some people (I know of several) go from program to program, spending tons of money, hoping to find whatever it is they need to start feeling better?  But it never happens!  Is their shame sabotaging everything they are trying to accomplish?

Bill Harris says the problem with shame is that it can be buried so deeply that we are unaware that it is even there-because we are so ashamed, we don’t want to face it.  We don’t realize we even feel ashamed, and so we can’t process the emotion and let it go. 

Some people hide their shame behind anger, feelings of never being good enough, feeling undeserving of love or money (because they are such a bad person), or other ways like overeating or other addictions (drugs, drinking, smoking, etc.).

Most, if not all of us were shamed as children.  I’d say some of our parents did it intentionally, others did it without really meaning to, but they still did it.  Haven’t you ever yelled at or scolded your child and she seemed to shrink in on herself?  Bet she was feeling ashamed of herself.  Did she internalize that feeling at that time?  Maybe.  Lots of the emotional garbage we carry with us is a result of things that happened when we were wounded as small children.  That child inside of you can be healed with energy healing.

What are you ashamed of?  How do you think those feelings of shame (the ones you know of, or those that are buried) are affecting other aspects of your life?  Because you can be assured that they are.  Any disruption in your energy field (in this case caused by repressed shame) affects all aspects of your life.  So, think about it, journal about it, do some tapping about it (see my website for the points to tap), and call me if you can’t seem to find it, or can’t seem to process it.

Go start releasing that shame, and let me know how it is going!


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